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Self Help For Depression

2011-01-10T17:39:00.001Z

Self Help For Depression

I have already discussed about the term "depression" in earlier post. In this article, i am going to describe for helping self while in depression. There are various factors which cause depression. As we all human being are different so do our living environment, surrounding on where we grew, our relatives, our friends etc etc. These are some major factors influencing depression.

If in case, one is diagnosed as a medical depression, its recovery is a lengthy or long process. Depression is the major base for other severe mental maladies like bipolar disorder, schizophrenia etc. Initial treatment of depression as mentioned by most psychiatrist is to use antidepressants which will stabilize the mood of the patient but there is always the risk of mood shifting to maniac stage if only antidepressants are being used without other necessary anti-psychotic drugs.

Apart from medical help, you can self help for your depression when you will recognize that, things are not going right way.

When you are in a deep state of depression, you will not feel like doing anything or being in company with anyone neither friends, relatives. Only negative thinking roots your mind. But when you feel like this, better be more active in sharing your state of mind to someone who are more near to you, someone who can understand your inner state of health and well being and someone who can counsel you correctly.

If work is your cause of being depressed, take some rest or rather fragment your working style into smaller ones so that it will be easy and relaxing for you to accomplish your tasks.

While in depression, isolation must be avoided as much as you can and try to make yourself busy or engaged in some job. "Vacant mind is devil's home". Especially in this ailment, vacant mind is very dangerous which can arouse various negative feelings, out of which suicidal tendency is most dangerous. Let yourself not be withdrawn from social gatherings.

Another sure-shot method of getting rid of most physical, psychological, mental ailments is "Exercise". Yah, Exercise is a proven tonic for depression and many major diseases. Especially aerobic exercises are verified to stabilize mood swings in the case of mental malady.

Another inevitable method of kicking depression out is able to relax or calm down your body and mind. Some methods like autogenics, yoga, meditation are already described in earlier posts. But, the bottom-line is relaxation. When, we can relax at our own will, we can get rid of unwanted mood swings.

These are some of the self help methods for depression which is useful if taken consideration in proper time.

P.S. The methods mentioned above only work for people having depression which is in initial state. For chronic depression ( where patient is not able to control or recognize depression self), he/she should consult a certified psychiatrist for proper medication.

Disc Personality Profile TesT

2010-12-30T04:35:00.000Z

Disc Personality Test

Disc personality system is the language of behavior and character. Behavioral characteristics is classified and grouped together in four main divisions called personality divisions. And People are divided in these main personality profile. People with similar personality profile are grouped in one group. Specifically, DISC, terminology stands for four personality style.

D- Drive

General Characteristics of people fall in this category:

People who fall here are direct, straight forward, decisive, high Ego Strength, problem solver, risk Taker, self starter. Instead of all these, they have weakness also. They oversteps authority. They have argumentative and egoistic attitude which is not digestible to most of the people. They don't want to be bound in routine and discipline, want to make their own routine and they love freedom. And they attempt every work more than their capacity at once. People who are under this category tends and motivated to take new challenges and risks.

I- Influence

General Characteristics:

People who are under this section are enthusiastic, talkative, impulsive and emotional. They can encourage others to obtain their goal, a kind of motivator. They have a positive sense of humor and a kind of peace maker or negotiator.

Their weakness are they are more concerned with popularity and inattentive to details. They overuses body language or gestures which makes them funny sometime. They fear of being rejected for something or by someone. They are motivated by flattery, popularity. They have a craze of self importance. They want to be free from many rules and regulations which tend to capture their freedom.

S- Steadiness

General Characteristics:

Firstly, people under this segment are a good listener so they are a good team player. They are possessive but friendly. They are a loyal team worker, reliable and dependable. Their foremost weakness is that they can't resist change, very sensitive to criticism. They have a fear of loss of security. They are inspired or motivated by loyalty, safety and security. They do not accept sudden changes in lifestyle and routine and they takes a lot time to be adjusted in new environment.

C-Compliance

General Characteristics:

People fall under this category believes in accuracy. They are analytical and careful. They tries to find exact facts and they are very systematic. Their weakness are that, they need clear cut boundaries or limitations for every work even in relationships. They are bound by procedures and methods. They fear with critics and are motivated by high quality standards, limited social interactions and tasks with details.

These are some of the characteristics of people who falls under these four categories. Find which personality type you are by these Disc personality Test.

Questions and Expressions to detect Lie

2010-11-29T16:58:00.000Z

Lies Detecting Tips

In my previous articles also, i have talked a lot about body language. This post is also similar or related to body language but not as a whole. I am going to display some tips which help us to distinguish if a person is lying or telling the truth.

1) Pattern of Speaking:

If a person is lying his/her voice intonation changes frequently. To be more sure, experts say that paying attention to a person's speech rate and breathing pattern--if the pattern is either fast or slow or fluctuating, the person is not telling whole truth.

2) Contents of his/her sayings:

Liars usually tend to avoid or ignore words or phrases like "but", "nor", "except" because if he/she is lying, he/she will have hard time deciding what to say and what not to. Liars are less likely to use terms like "I", "Me", "mine" etc etc.

3) Unsatable bodily movements:

Liars have hard time deciding what to say and what not to so this confusion is reflected by his/her body language. Red ears, vibrating sound, trying to start conversation which is entirely different from the main topic etc etc.

4) Smile:

Smile is that powerful tool only given to human kind by the God that we can use it for positive purposes. We can impress other people with our smile ability. In case of liars, sometimes smile can mask a person's true feelings. If a person is lying, he/she tries to fake his/her smile but frustration and fear can be clearly seen in his/her face.

Body Language Flirting

2010-08-27T18:55:00.001+01:00

Body Language Flirting

In previous posts, we have already discussed about topics related to body language and its importance and application for personality development. Today i am going to give some information regarding body language flirting. As we know that "action speaks louder than words", non-verbal communication has a great impact on our day to day activities. We use this tool everywhere to project ourselves so do our thoughts, ideas and information before the world.

Flirting tips for Men

Everybody wants to develop their personality in front of others. I don't want you all to misunderstand the title here "flirting tips for men" negatively. In animal kingdom also, flirting is one way to improve, maintain or establish a relationship between animals. We are humans so, we must have knowledge about using body language for attracting others. Actually, using non-verbal communication for this purpose is innate or inborn quality, but i will share some tips which will be helpful for self-conscious guys to improve or generate positive relationships. Here i am going to brief some point which a guy should remember while dating a girl so that he won’t be losing his personality with the help of body language for flirting.

1. Be confident (If you are not act confident and you will be confident)

Most girls like a guy who is confident in himself and whatever he does. So, feeling or confidence is very necessary. You are not supposed to show acts like biting nails, looking here and there, diverting your attention to somewhere. You must be able to make her feel that she is secured and safe when she is with you.

2. Stay close to her

Staying far away can make her feel that you are too nervous to have talk or chat with her in anyway. So, stay close to her but not too close. Maintain private space.

3. Eye contact

This is another must have tool. While talking with her, always see in her eyes but don't stare. Mind that staring and looking are different terms. Look at her eyes when conversation and look somewhere right after the last word. Then again you can look at her eyes.

4. Smile

No matter how bad looking you are, your smile can bring charm in your face. Smile is also a powerful positive body language and it is useful for flirting also. So, when she will be saying something, always smile.

5. Listen

Before you explain your views, try to figure out her views firstly. LISTENING has much power than talking. So, listen her each words with interest. After she is finished, pour your thoughts.

6. Show originality

Don't try to show what you are not or which you can't do or what you don't have. Your body language must correspond with whatever you are saying verbally. So always be truthful about your originality.

These are some tips which are basic. These tips are not only helpful for body language flirting but also help for establishing positive relationship with other people too.

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Teenage Self Esteem

2010-07-24T06:46:00.002+01:00

Tips for increasing and improving Teenage Self-Esteem

Concise Dictionary defines the term "self esteem" as the belief and confidence in your own ability and value. We can simply say this as our self confidence and we even know how much important this thing for us in each part of our life.

And for personality development it is one of the prerequisite for optimal achievement. Almost all age groups needs this tool. Decreasing in self-esteem can leads to serious mental problems like depression.

Among all age groups, teenage requires this the most. This is because the teen years are always a turbulent and confusing time, it is also a time when a persons self esteem can either develop to it's full potential, or be left behind to wither for the rest of their adult life. This is the stage of human development when one can develop positively or negatively. There are various methods for increase teenage self esteem but i am going to sort our some major factors which i collected from various sources and from my experience.

1) Appearance (self image-self perception) - Teenage years is one of the most pressured times of your life, and no doubt one of these pressures will be to do with your self image. This has a flow on affect to influence your self confidence and self esteem which can affect your studies performance, sociability, etc, and can lead to a vicious cycle. In regards to looks there is always room for improvement, and what you can't fix you feature.(So if you have crooked teeth, make sure they're clean. If you have a funny shaped head, make sure you have a great haircut that suits it.) There is a lot of very effective treatment out there for acne which you may consider. The trick to gaining self esteem is that once you have done all you can to better your appearance then that in itself is something to be confident about. You may not be able to have any control about what you have, but you have 100% control about what you do with it and that is all that matters. Also realize that any self esteem issues that you associate to your looks are all in your head, and anyone that has a go at you is usually insecure about themselves, and compensates by putting others down.

2) Parents or Guardians - Yes, parents may have good intentions for you but these good intentions can be overbearing and may actually hurt your self esteem and lead to lower levels of confidence. Usually the main situation is a parent that overworks their child, hoping for them to get perfect grades and attend college however this is not always best for a teenagers self esteem. Problems can occur when you feel overworked, and over supervised. They should by all means encourage you and make sure you are keeping up but not become the bad guys by pressuring you to the point where it is unhealthy. This will negatively affect your grades, your relationship and result in low self esteem symptoms. If you have an issue with your parents in any area, ask to sit down with them for a moment, and explain your side of the story and the listen to their side. A lot of progress can be made when you can recognise each others situation.

3) Peers - Peers can be a source of joy and a source of constant anxiety, depending on who you talk to. Socially the schoolyard can be a pretty tough place, with unspoken rules and a clear difference between the 'cool kids' and the not so cool kids. Confidence and self esteem can be made or broken here and it is important that you do not lose either. Generally for guys it helps if you play on a sporting team as you develop a lot of social status and friends and develop a good image. Girls may benefit from other clubs run within the school, but should realise that other girls can be very manipulative and may not treat them well which is just a fact of life in school and nothing personal about them. On the other they will also encounter some of their closest friends within the school grounds, it is just a case of taking things as they come and not taking things personally.

4) Positive role modeling - children watch and observe parents and other adults around them from the day they are born, and although many parents fail to understand the impact of their actions and behaviors around kids, each and every experience and interaction a child witnesses or engages in helps to develop self esteem. To what degree these experiences are positive for a child determines the impact on healthy self esteem building. A child must feel lovable and capable to develop high self esteem, and witnessing and experiencing the behaviors of the adults closest to him or her will significantly affect that.

5) Promote deep connection - a child needs to feel he or she is a part of something, sharing feelings, communications, and a deep level of warmth and caring. This may include identifying with special groups, heritage, or something else that is important to the child. A parent needs to figure out what that identifying piece is for each child and make a focused effort to encourage and nurture the connection. Children also need to feel deeply connected to the important people in their lives: parents, siblings, friends, teachers, clergy, etc. To what degree these relationships have a positive affect on deep and healthy connection for a child, will determine the affect on self esteem.

6) Giving specific praise - a child may become confused with what's referred to as "global praise". So many times, parents and other adults feel that by telling a child he or she did "a good job" that it will provide a feeling of satisfaction within the child. Research has shown just the opposite, as most times children are confused by global praise. A parent may find it more effective to be much more specific, for instance commenting specifically on the colors in a child's drawing, the noticed progress in the playing of a sport or musical instrument, or the tenacious effort preparing for a science project. Giving specific praise will surely help build healthy self esteem.

7) Support and celebrate uniqueness - a child needs experiences that allow him or her to be different. A child needs to have self-respect, know that he or she can do things no one else can, be able to communicate and interact in special ways, use his or her imagination to reach creative potential, and enjoy being different. Many parents are challenged to engage a child in behaviors and activities that are different than what the parent had planned or envisions for the child, or may be far from the norm. Allowing this uniqueness is not easy, as parents may fear that a child acting different risks not being accepted by peers or other adults. Healthy self esteem building provides the child with ample opportunity, and parental support, to find his or her own interests and beliefs, despite any resistance or lack of support from peers.

8) Allow appropriate sense of power - a child needs to feel he or she has some influence over surroundings and circumstance. In order to have such influence, a child needs to learn many skills, have the opportunity to make choices, and be encouraged to take responsibility and be accountable. A child with high self esteem will believe that he or she can do what he or she has set out to do, knows what skills are required to fulfill a task, feels he or she is in charge of important things in his or her life, knows how to make decisions and solve problems, and can deal with some pressure and stress. Parents will want to allow "age-appropriate" sense of power and maintain healthy rules and structure, rather than burden a child with too much, too early. A sense of power is not being bossy, spoiled, or manipulative, but rather an understanding of skill and expectations.

[ Source- Ezine articles]

These are some basic methods for upgrading and increasing teenage self esteem for common teenagers. But, personally we know our child better than others so, we should always focus on searching specific areas by which we can develop their confidence level.

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Intj Personality Type

2010-07-23T19:50:00.003+01:00

Intj Personality Type

INTJ which is abbreviated as (introversion, intuition, thinking , judgement) is used as the term in Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) one, out of sixteen personality types.

The MBTI instrument for Intj Personality Examination

The MBTI preferences indicate the differences in people based on the following:

How they focus their attention or get their energy (extroversion or introversion)
How they perceive or take in information (sensation or intuition)
How they prefer to make decisions (thinking or feeling)
How they orient themselves to the external world (judgment or perception)

The MBTI tool consists of multiple choice questions that sort respondents on the basis of the four "dichotomies" (pairs of psychological opposites). Sixteen different outcomes are possible, each identified by its own four-letter code, referred to by initial letters. (N is used for intuition, as I is used for Introversion). The MBTI is approximately 75% accurate according to its own manual.

I – Introversion preferred to extraversion: INTJs tend to be quiet and reserved. They generally prefer interacting with a few close friends rather than a wide circle of acquaintances, and they expend energy in social situations (whereas extraverts gain energy).
N – Intuition preferred to sensing: INTJs tend to be more abstract than concrete. They focus their attention on the big picture rather than the details and on future possibilities rather than immediate realities.
T – Thinking preferred to feeling: INTJs tend to value objective criteria above personal preference. When making decisions they generally give more weight to logic than to social considerations.
J – Judgment preferred to perception: INTJs tend to plan their activities and make decisions early. They derive a sense of control through predictability, which to perceptive types may seem limiting.

Source-Wikipedia

Properties of Intj Personality Profile:

To unknown about Intj personality, INTJs may appear to project an aura of "definiteness", of self-confidence. This self-confidence, sometimes mistaken for simple arrogance by the less decisive, is actually of a very specific rather than a general nature; its source lies in the specialized knowledge systems that most INTJs start building at an early age. When it comes to their own areas of expertise -- and INTJs can have several -- they will be able to tell you almost immediately whether or not they can help you, and if so, how. INTJs know what they know, and perhaps still more importantly, they know what they don't know . INTJs are perfectionists, with a seemingly endless capacity for improving upon anything that takes their interest. What prevents them from becoming chronically bogged down in this pursuit of perfection is the pragmatism so characteristic of the type: INTJs apply (often ruthlessly) the criterion "Does it work?" to everything from their own research efforts to the prevailing social norms. This in turn produces an unusual independence of mind, freeing the INTJ from the constraints of authority, convention, or sentiment for its own sake. INTJs are idea people. Anything is possible; everything is negotiable. Whatever the outer circumstances, INTJs are ever perceiving inner pattern-forms and using real-world materials to operationalize them. Others may see what is and wonder why; INTJs see what might be and say "Why not?!" Paradoxes, antinomies, and other contradictory phenomena aptly express these intuitors' amusement at those whom they feel may be taking a particular view of reality too seriously. INTJs enjoy developing unique solutions to complex problems.

Areas that may interest Intj Personality Profiles:

There might not be a single work which a perfectionist can't do. As we have mentioned Intj personality profile as perfectionist, i have tried to put forth some job which can interest Intjs.]

Realistic:

• Computer science, systems analyst, informatics, programmer
• Software design
• Engineering (all types)
• Urban planning
• Chemist, mathematician, astronomer, physicist
• Applied science, technology, technician
• Environmental science, geography, geology
• Architect

Investigative:

• Actuary
• Biochemistry,biology, neuroscience
• Law, lawyer, attorney
• Economics / economist
• Financial planning / planner
• Philosopher, theology, theologian
• Health / medical sciences, public health
• Researcher or research assistant
• Social sciences (psychology, sociology, political science, history, anthropology, etc.)
• Information / library sciences, librarian
• Critic, critical theory
• Non-fiction writer
• Physician, doctor: neurologist, psychiatrist, pathologist, internal medicine, opthamologist, radiologist
• Pharmacist

Artistic:

• Dancer
• Playwright, dramatist
• Actor
• Musician
• Interior designer
• Graphic / website designer
• Painter / sculptor
• Creative writer, blogger, journalist, editor
• Photography, photographer
• Film producer / director

Social:

• College professor
• Therapist, respiratory
• Optometrist, audiologist
• Psychologist, clinical
• Teacher / educator, science, mathematics
• Priest, minister, rabbi, monk, nun

Enterprising:

• Entrepreneur
• Management, manager (upper level / executive)
• Consultant (any type, including political)
• Organizational psychologist

Conventional

• Administrator, superintendent, school principal
• Accountant (especially for those with only mild intuition)
• Finance
• Technical writer

For visual understanding :

Intj Personality type

Intj Personality Myers Briggs

More about Intj Personality in Yahoo answers

Myres Briggs Intj Personality type

Career for Intj Personality People

Italian Gestures (Body language part-xii)

2010-07-22T13:05:00.000+01:00

Italian Gestures:

In this post, I am going to give information regarding gestures or body language according to location and community. One gesture which can be positive to one locals can be negative to another. So, to maintain our personality and to be accepted we must know gestures or body language which are specific to certain people. That’s why I am going to take Italian Gestures as the first and foremost one.

If you are planning a trip to Italy, here are some of the basics:

Introductions and Greetings

When it comes to introductions in Italy, Italians prefer to be introduced by a third party, if possible. When meeting people, it is proper to be introduced to women and older people first. It is the same protocol when introducing yourself to others.

Shake hands with everyone with a firm grip during introductions and departures. While doing this always say "buon giorno" during the day time or "buona sera" in the afternoon and evening. It is commons for Italians to greet people they know with a hug but it is not expected from a foreigner to the same gesture.

Conversations and Behavior

Italians are known for using hand gestures when they are talking. It is their way of giving emphasis to their feelings or point.

It is common to see people walking hand in hand or having their arms linked together in public. This is normally seen in the evenings during strolls known as "passeggiata". An Italian's personal space is smaller than those of Northern Europeans or Americans. It is common for them to have a conversation that is much closer than what you are used to.

Eye contact is also very important to Italians, as it shows if you are interested in a person or not. Be aware that looking away may perceived to be a sign of boredom or of rudeness. Placing the hand on the stomach means dislike for another person.

Public Transportation and Gatherings

It is common courtesy for younger people to give up their seats to older people and for men to give up their seats to women. Always wait for your host to tell you where to sit.

Eating and Drinking

Cappuccinos should be taken only in the mornings while Espressos can be taken anytime. Italians normally stop and sit to eat. It is rare to see them eat while walking, however it is acceptable to walk and eat only if you are eating a gelato.

Shopping

Always remember that when entering the workplace, restaurants, cafes, or stores to say the proper greetings, which are "buon giorno" (Good Morning) or "buona sera" (Good Afternoon /Evening) and "arrivaderci" (Goodbye) when departing.

When purchasing items where there is a line, it is common to see a person walk right to the front of the line and be served first because he or she has a good relationship with the seller. Queueing is not strict in Italy, in fact, Italians are very tolerant of queue barging!

It is rude to read through magazines when in front of a newsstand. Also, do not touch items that are on the window display. Instead, politely ask the seller for the item.

When shopping in Italy, do not assume that the sellers speak your language, as many Italians seldom do. It is best to learn a few phrases and make an effort to learn their language.

Rude Behavior

It is deemed as a gesture of contempt if you rub your chin with the fingertips and propel them forward. Making a hand gesture that looks like the devil's horn pointed outward is an obscene gesture. The opposite direction means warding off evil. When you point with both your index and pinky fingers, it means you are wishing a person bad luck. It is considered very offensive if you slap a raised arm above the elbow and thumbing your nose. It is unacceptable to chew gum, lean or slouch in public.

These are some basics of Italian gestures which is the most if we are visiting to Italy. More gestures are about to come. Keep visiting.

Handwriting Expert

2010-06-09T03:39:00.002+01:00

HANDWRITING EXPERT

I have already mentioned the power of handwriting in my earlier articles relating to handwriting. We can say that "handwriting" simply is Brainwriting. With handwriting behavior analysis, we can be handwriting expert ourselves. We don't need to hire any other handwriting expert.
Most of the techniques of analysis are already described in this blog. Power of handwriting analysis is unlimited. Apart from developing personality positively, recent studies have shown that handwriting analysis can be used for terminating mental maladies.
Many psychologists and handwriting experts have pointed out the consistent relationship between the mind and the body. None of them, however, has attempted to discover the actual bridge between the two. We can be sure that our body and mind are not two but they are one. If one stops to work, another will definitely stop. A team of various psychologists and handwriting expert analyzed the handwriting sample of patient from their childhood and a similarity has been found in most schizophrenic and bipolar patients in slants and strokes of their handwriting samples. Graphic rigidity, therefore, is a symbol of the writer's lack of impressionability, showing him to be insensible to all the variety and rich experiences of the outward world. Just as the mind of the psychotic has no participation in all the fertile influences of this world, his handwriting reflects a similar rigidity and impoverishment of forms. They observe childish letter formation in the handwriting of the educated adult psychotic, which reverts to the archaic forms of a remote state of civilization proving that handwriting changes with a person's mental state. This can be genetic but these vast similarities can't co-incidental. So, it can be said that handwriting analysis can help to know and analyze these kind of mental illness beforehand and treat accordingly before it happens.
Apart from this, its proved that we can change our thinking pattern, attitude and our lives as a whole by changing our handwriting.
The treatment of personality and character flaws through deliberately made changes in the handwriting, offers a completely new field for the graphologist and subject alike. The technique requires the subject to copy a handwriting exercise at least twice a day, morning and night, consciously modifying his script according to instructions supplied by a competent graphologist or a handwriting expert.
Graphotherapists have won the support of doctors, teachers and psychologists for success in clearing up mental disturbances in children by changing their handwriting.
Graphologists have found that many of children's 'inner problems' showed up clearly in their writing. The introverts had difficulty connecting their letters; the fearful tended to squeeze all theirs together. Gradually, graphotherapists concocted a set of corrective exercises designed to give children a sense of continuity, invention and equilibrium. They theorized that in overcoming a defect in any one of these elements, a child must first develop a feeling for rhythm, melody and harmony.

So, it will be worthwhile to better understand self with the help of handwriting analysis tool yourself or by handwriting expert

Be Responsible; But Don't Purchase Trouble

2010-06-01T05:33:00.001+01:00

Be Responsible; But Don't Purchase Trouble
Being responsible or handling responsibility is one important part of personality development. Its not easy as it seems to be responsible. If we believe in supernatural or God and when we chant his names, it doesn't mean that we should become lazy and give up all our responsibilities to him. Thinking that things are in God's hand is just the stupidity. Either there is something in our destiny, we are the one to make it, its not like it will complete automatically. Labor and hard-work is the key-point here.
The ideal approach to work is; be balanced; be responsible but do not purchase trouble either. Sometimes, one tends to think, " I am getting this much salary, but he is also getting the same amount. But he is doing very little work and is mostly escaping from his work. So why should i work so hard? Let me also escape." But by escaping from one's responsibilities, one gets a feeling of guilt, which increases one's anxieties manifold. There will not be anything known as peace of mind or internal peace within him. The safest and the best course of action is to accomplish your job honestly and responsibly which surely increase your self-esteem and confidence level.

While doing our duties responsibly, we should be intelligent enough not to add on to our responsibilities by taking additional loads due to our egoistic initiative; otherwise we are simply purchasing trouble- a negative personality trait indeed. Such an egoistic person thinks, "He is doing so much work, i must show the world that i am much better and greater then him." There is a vast difference between EGO and CONFIDENCE. If you think you can do the given work-this is confidence but if you think you ONLY can do the given task- this is EGO. So, all we need to do is extract EGO from Confidence and we will succeed. An egoistic person takes on so much load on oneself that one has no time for self, family even no time for basic activities of life. This negative busy schedule not only destroys him but also people and surroundings near him. How can such a person who, in order to satisfy his inflated ego, is caught up in unending materialistic activities, ever attain peace of mind?
So one should do one's job properly and, at the same time, set aside sufficient time for cultivating one's inward life by chanting, meditating, reading books, practicing yoga.

Tips for Parents (Child Personality Development)

2010-05-12T05:15:00.000+01:00

Tips for Parents (Child Personality Development)

Every parents want their son and daughter be the best. This is why they work really very very hard to maintain every wishes of their children. Every stages of human life is important but the most crucial stage is PUBERTY. This is the stage after childhood and before adulthood. We can simply say this is the stage when a child grows up physically, mentally and most importantly emotionally. Most parents know that their children are growing physically and mentally but ignore the aspect that they also grow emotionally.

So, in this crucial period, they need emotional support too. Below are some points which every parents must make in mind.

1. Always invest for providing quality education to your children.

2. Fulfill the needed necessities of your children ( Take limits).

3. Socialize them. (Take them to parties, social gatherings, to develop public relations).

4. Let them realize their failures and support them to get success in future.

5. Take care of their health and fitness.

6. Be a leader and lead them for their betterness.

7. Act like a friend ( so they can't hesitate to say their internal conflicts--But take Limits)

8. Be the source of inspiration and motivate them for positive personal development.

9. Never ever compare your children with other children which demoralize them.

10. Never Scold them comparing your era and their----generation gap

11. Never repeat the same thing again and again

12. Spend more time with them.

13. If they make mistake, act according to condition ( To be harsh or cool is up to you ).

14. Try to understand their needs even if they don't express.

15. Maintain smooth relation between you and your children.

16. One most important tip, If they fall, let them wake up by themselves, motivate and inspire to wake up, but don't support. We love our children so we support them but forgetting we are making them weak. Struggle is the truth everyone is aware of so let them form then habit of struggling so they will succeed in future...

Success Personality

2010-05-06T15:06:00.002+01:00

EVERY SUCCESS STORY IS THE STORY OF FAILURE

There is one very important proverb " Failure is the Pillar of Success ". Most of use might be very familiar with this saying but how many of us apply this in real life? Very rare. We just say this saying is just to motivate or giving inspiration. But, i say this saying has real power if we think seriously. This is the true fact that " Every Success story has a great Failure experience ".

Tom Watson Sr of IBM said," If you want to succeed, double your failure rate." If we go back in time or if we search the history, we will find that almost all stories of great personalities are also the stories of greatest failures. But, we don't see failures. We only see the end result and think that the person got lucky: 'He might have been at the right place at the right time', this is what we think, but we ignore to see his struggles, labour, determination, will power, effort etc to make him successful. Most, importantly, we are blind to see his failures.

To verify this paragraph, i am going to share one story (biography) here.

-This is the story of a man who failed in business at the age of 21; was defeated in a legislative race at 22; failed again in business at 24; got departed from his sweetheart at 26; had a nervous breakdown at 27; lost a congressional race at 34; lost a senatorial race at 45; failed in an effort to become vice-president at 47; lost a senatorial race again at 49; (Upto now, you might be thinking, this guy is the best loser as he has been losing in whatever he attempted), but he was elected as the president of United States of America at the age of 52. And he was non other than ABRAHAM LINCOLN.[ Source of this story- You Can Win] So, now how many of us can badged him as a failure? In his whole life, he lived failing and learned from it. He is a winner in the sense that, either he was not able to PUNCH or hide from other PUNCHING him but all he did was able to stand up no matter how hard he was PUNCHED.

This is the spirit, which makes us successful. We should be able to stand up.

-Beethoven was told that he had no talent in music when he was young. But he had given some of the best music to the world. His music and tracks are still very popular and are being used in super-learning, relaxation, meditation and alternative treatment purposes.

-Another story is of a young cartoonist who faced many rejections from newspaper editors saying he has no talent at all. One day, a minister at a church hired him to draw some cartoons. He was working out of a small rodent-infested shed near the church. At that very time, he saw a small mouse which inspired him to change the drawing and hence, MICKEY MOUSE was borned. This cartoonist was non other than WALT DISNEY.

-One day a partially deaf four-year-old child came home with a note in his hand from his teacher," Your tommy is too stupid to learn, he got no mind so get him out of school." His mother read the note and replied." My Tommy is not too stupid to learn, I will teach him myself." And that Tommy grew to become the great scientist THOMAS EDISON. Thomas Edison had only three months of formal schooling. he failed approximately 10,000 times while he was working on the light bulb. This means that, apart from formal knowledge, the must thing is our attitude, determination, positive ego and ability to accept and face criticism.

-Greatest Scientist, ALBERT EINSTEIN, was termed as the stupid and fools among his friends. He was suffering from dyslexia, unable to solve mathematical problems. But later, no one can beat his mathematical talents. Nuclear developments are his contribution.

** These examples are very rare and few. But, if we keep searching we can get that almost all successful people were somewhere failed. All success stories are failure stories too. The only difference is that every time these great personalities failed, they bounced back. This is somewhat called "FAILING FORWARD". We should always learn from our failures.

If a person doesn't attempt to compete thinking of being failed----He is Stupid

If a person attempts and competes but he fails---- He is Brave.

But if a person fails and doesn't learn from it---- He is a Loser.

Therefore, our success rate is determined by our BOUNCE BACK ability. Setbacks are natural, they happen to everyone of us, they are simply inevitable or unavoidable. But, it can also act as a driving force and can even teach us humility. We should learn to become victors, not victims. Just after each setback we should ask ourself like : What did i learn from this experience? What will be the next plan to overcome? Only then we will be able to turn a block into a bridge.

Winners Versus Losers

2010-04-29T15:58:00.000+01:00

Winners versus Losers

**The winner is always part of answer;
* The Loser is always a part of problem.
** The Winner always has a program;
* The Loser always has an excuse.
** The Winner says, "Let me do it for you";
* The Loser says," That is not my job".
** The Winner sees an answer for every problem;
* The Loser sees a problem in every answer.
** Winner says," It may be difficult but it is possible";
* The Loser says," It may be possible but it is too difficult".
** When a Winner makes a mistake, he says," I was wrong";
* When a Loser makes mistake, he says," It wasn't my fault.
** Winner makes commitments;
* Loser makes promises.
** Winners have dreams;
* Losers have schemes.
** Winners say," I must do something.";
* Losers says," Something must be done".
** Winners are part of the team;
* Losers are apart from the team.
** Winners see the gain;
* Losers see the pain.
** Winners see possibilities;
* Losers see probabilities.
** Winners believe is win/win;
* Losers believe in for them to win, someone has to lose.
** Winners are like a thermostat;
* Losers are like a thermometer.
** Winners choose what they say;
* Losers say what they choose.
** Winners use hard arguments but soft words;
* Losers use soft arguments but hard words.
** Winners follow the phiolosophy of empathy: "Don't do to others what you would not want them to do";
* Losers follow the philosophy:" Do it to others before they do it to you".
** Winners make it happen;
* Losers let it happen.

[Source: YOU CAN WIN--Shiv Khera]

--These are some of the differences in attitude and behaviors of winners and losers. One last word which i have experienced myself personally. If you wanna win, do things which winners do or if you can't do that, just don't do things which losers do....

Positive Body Language

2010-04-27T11:25:00.001+01:00

Positive Body Language

Till now we have come to know the introduction, properties, benefits and consequences of BODY LANGUAGE. But, from this post, we are going to learn how to apply the techniques detailed in earlier posts and apply them in our day to day life.

The secret to success is to act like you are already a success. Sending out good and positive body language not only describes your personality but also is like having two voices showering praises on your instead of only one. In addition to this, people are always more likely to remember what they see and a few seconds of body movement can be worth an entire interview of words. It is said that "action speaks louder than words" and we have already discussed about this topic in previous posts. But, how does one go about getting better positive body language?

Following are the tips which give a better idea of how to project or sell yourself using posture and expression:

(i) Stand Straight::

Slouching or hunching gives the impression that you have something to hide. Keep your head up and smile as you walk. Relax and let your arms hand at your sides. This walk will give people the impression that you have nothing to hide and you are used to being listened to.

(ii) Be Animated:

Make use of your hands while you speak. Making hand motions and gestures increases the chances that will concentrate on what you are saying. Being animated also helps someone get excited about a project or story that is being described to them. Excitement spreads, if there is someone to spread it. But be cautious, over using of animation can effect negatively and seems fake.

(iii) Pay Attention:

One of the key aspects of good body language is paying attention to someone and also looking like you are paying attention and not get distracted and lose concentration. Nodding the head and making positive remarks will let someone know that you are interested in what they are saying. Take notes, if that is appropriate.

(iv) Make Eye Contact:

To show another person that you are confident, look the person in the eye. Because this look is traditionally challenging, it sends the message that you are not afraid to stand up for your goals and will not get intimidated by the person next to you. Try not to meet the eye for too long. Maintain eye contact for as long as you feel is necessary and then look somewhere else. If you keep looking for a long period of time, it becomes looking to staring and can sends negative body language.

(v) Scale the Invisible Wall:

People often keep an invisible sphere of personal space around themselves. Stepping into this space for a minute help gain confidence. Touching the hand, shoulder or shaking hands with a firm grasp are all signs of confidence and strength and helps break the wall.

(vi) Use Decisive Movements:

The more a person appears to be in charge, the more people will approve of you. Keep your movement spirited and succinct and you will appear to be able to have many things to do and to get many things done at once.

Body Language (Part- Xi)

2010-04-27T10:34:00.000+01:00

Body Language (Part Xi-7 Functions of Non-verbal Communication)

In the communication theory seven functions of the non-verbal communication are distinguished:

1) Saying again what has already been expressed in words ( Saying "no" and shaking the head at the same time, giving direction and pointing).

2) Substituting the verbal communication (nodding "yes", shaking "no", questioning facial expression, emblem gestures).

3) Disagreeing with the verbal communication (confirming something but shaking your head hesitantly or shrugging your shoulders).

4) Affectionate (instinctive) support of the spoken word (concerned frown or encouraging pat on the back).

5) Details about the mutual relation (smiling, eye contact, touching, distance, posture).

6) Giving emphasis to the verbal communication (a wagging finger when you express an accusation or reproaching someone with a loud voice and banging on the table angrily).

7) Putting together and managing the verbal communication ( the dots and commas of the spoken sentences: looking at someone and looking away, pauses and supporting hand gestures).

Motivation for Study

2010-04-18T03:08:00.001+01:00

Motivation for Study

(i) Introduction:

Motives are mental energy forces. They are the basis of the "mental effort" we put into our work. When they are strongly active you work hard and concentrate easily. When they are inactive, then the task is difficult to get down to and your performance is poor. To illustrate this point, take a simple example of motivation in relation to the need for food. If your need is great, you will be strongly motivated and find yourself unable to think of anything other than food. If, on the other hand, you have just had a meal, your motivation towards the food will be very small, perhaps non-existent, and far from actively searching for food, the thought or sight of it will disinterest or even repel you. Similarly, if you are in great need of sleep, you can't be bothered even to participate in activities which interest you. However, if you have just awakened refreshed, your need for further sleep is much less and you have energy to tackle new problems. These same principles apply to working, thinking, paying attention, learning etc. When you want to work, either because of a pressing need (e.g. just before an examination or from fear of punishment) or because you are interested in the job in hand, your performance will be much better than if you are disinterested and cannot be bothered. The fact that we all work harder and more readily than at others, why we can persist in the face of difficulties, etc. An awareness of the importance of motivation is fundamental to our investigation of "study-methods".

(b) What Motivates Us to Study?

We may well say that when we are discussing the motivation of eating, sleeping and so forth we are talking about “natural processes” for which there must be “natural motives” built into the mind. Surely, however, as “studying” is not the natural process there can be no motives designed to activate the mind towards it. The answer to this problem lies in the fact that many, if not all, motives are capable of adaptation to the circumstances in which they are to be used. The following motives probably play a large part in making us want to study, providing we are reasonably competent to tackle the material involved:

(1) Curiosity, i.e. the natural tendency to want to find out as much as possible about your surroundings;

(2) Ambition, i.e. the sophisticated manifestation of aggression turned not towards other people but towards problems, hurdles, promotion, etc;

(3) Competition, i.e. the desire for self-respect, social acceptance and respect from others by being able to cope with problem and life as well as if not better than they can;

(4) Interest, i.e. the feeling that a subject or problem is worth tackling and overcoming for its own sake;

(5) Self-Preservation, i.e. the need for a qualification to give you a job, money, possessions, etc., which will make life possible and congenial for you later on.

(iii) The Improvement of Motivation:

From what we have just said it is obviously very important that we should constantly strive to control and direct our motives in a manner most likely to improve our studying efficiency. This is a very difficult task to advise on by the following practical hints may be given:

(1) Always try to understand the material you are studying, the reasons for studying it, the need for success, etc. A lazy student can often be strongly motivated by failure in a mock examination or terminal test when he realizes that a greater effort is required if eventually he is to succeed.

(2) Knowledge of how you are progressing acts in much the same way. To write essays and answer tests whose marks are not told to you or even to follow a two-or-three-year course with no definite assessments during its continuation can greatly reduce motivation in a student. To know how he is coping is the only real yardstick by which a student can decide whether his present effort is adequate or how much more is needed for success. Many teachers believe that for best motivation an encouraging mark (i.e. not too depressingly low but not to high that the student rests on his laurels) should be given wherever possible. When regular marks are available from a teacher there should be used by the student as criteria for deciding upon the future effort to be made. Do not make excuses to yourself about leaving revision and hard work to the end of the course. Constantly strive to improve the marks you get throughout the course.

(3) If you believe your work to be important or interesting motivation is generally good.

(4) Competition is an excellent form of motivation either with:

(a) Other students in a similar situation to yourself (providing that you do not always excel or come bottom of the group);

(b) Yourself by keeping records of how much you have improved during a given period of time.

REIKI -Part III (Chakras)

2010-04-17T16:18:00.000+01:00

REIKI -Part III (Chakras)

We understand that our physique or physical framework i.e. our body, as an energy body but not just the combination of muscle and bone. This framework is not as simple as it is seen. There is a complex network within this framework through which the energy flows. This network consists of channels known as nerves, which distribute vital energy to each and every point and part of the body.
Within this complex network, there are some major centres known as energy centres or chakras which helps in the distribution of energy throughout the body. For example, the solar plexus is the energy centre which is called 'Manipura Chakra'. This chakra helps in distributing the energy to the organs around the area of its influence, i.e. liver, pancreas, stomach etc. Hence, this chakra helps in burning the food. Kidneys and the adrenal gland are also associated with this chakra. If this energy centre does not distribute the energy properly, the person may be suffering from digestive related ailment : ingestion.
Each energy centre or chakra is connected to several organs and to other chakras as well and all chakras are connected to the ultimate and powerful organ human possess, the brain. The brain acts as the main power-station of the whole energy system. The chakras are active all the time, though we are not conscious about them. They draw the cosmic energy from the universe and the organs draw energy from their respective chakra.
Actually, Chakra depict the lotus. Each chakra is like a lotus with a fixed number of petals. If the chakra is in a healthy condition, it will be like a lotus in full bloom. the crown chakra is opened towards the sky for the intake of the cosmic energy. It connects us to the universe by a 'spiritual chord'. The mooladhara chakra is opened towards the earth connecting the body to the earth. It acts like an earthing.The chakras exist on each layer of our 'AURA' also. These chakras appear on both the frontside and backside of the body. The energy is taken by each chakra and is sent to the parts of the body located in the major nerve plexus area close to each chakra. This energy helps in the healthy functioning of the 'Auric' filed and the physical body. This energy is called 'Prana' If a chakra stops functioning properly, it will not be able to take energy properly. This means that the body organs served by that chakra will not get the required energy. If this continues, normal functioning of the organs and other body parts attached to that chakra will be disrupted. Hence, that part of the body will weaken and become diseased. Each of the chakra is like a funnel both to the frontside and backside of the body. Each funnel has its water opening on the outside of our body about six inches in diameter, one inch from the body. The other end of the chakras is like a tip attached to the spine.
*Each energy centres will be described in detail in coming posts*

Body Language (Part -x)

2010-04-14T04:05:00.001+01:00

Body Language (Part -x)

Significance of Communication:

The words we express or vent contribute a very vital role in other's perception for us. To leave a good impression, like in job interview, it is very important for us to know what message our body language is delivering or conveying. There is a very popular quotation also "First Impression is the Last Impression" so to make the first impression, positive we must have to make our body language also positive. The person who receives our body language signals will have the feeling which is very difficult to describe in words and even more difficult to verify what actually was communicated or expressed.

We say and hear at times like :" I have a gut feeling that he/she doesn't like me" or " I don't think that he is saying truth." These kinds of gut feelings is known as intuition which particularly arise when our subconscious receives body language data which doesn't corresponds or go parallel with the verbal words we received.

Body language is part of communication:

Body language is definitely revealing, but at the same time it should not be seen separately from all other means and forms of communication.

(i) Contact and Interaction-- When we search for the keyword "communication" on the search engines, we will get a screen filled with loads and lots of websites and blogs relating to computers and telephony. We have forgotten actually what communication is all about-- contact and interaction between people. Needless to say, these means of communication like telephone, computer, fax, can be used for this but interaction is usually concerned with communication over a long distance, but it can also concern contact with a colleague in the next room or having close distance. When we are communicating over short or close distance, we generally do not use any tools. At such times, we communicate through the use of speech and body language like in interview, public speaking, dating etc.

(ii) Message, sender and receiver-- When there is communication or conversation between two or more people, there is a transmission of information. One is delivering the information another is receiving it and vice versa. In communication theory, this information is termed as "message". The person who is sending the message is the sender and who is receiving is the receiver.

When people are in the company of others, it is impossible to not to communicate. Even when nothing is being said orally, a message will always be delivering through the body language. Communication takes place consciously or subconsciously as mentioned earlier. Like other emotions, body language can also said as emotion which arises from mind. For example: When we are lying in something, we just try to get rid of that matter, either we say perfectly, our body wont help us by delivering a different message to the receiver ( short eye contact or not able to make eye contact), this is somewhat subconscious action.

Body Language (Part-ix)

2010-04-13T12:19:00.001+01:00

Body Language: Action Speaks Louder than Words

The Use of Body Language:
As man being social animal, we can't live in isolation. We need other people in stages of our life. The moment we come into contact with another person, we start communicating with him/her ( receiving and delivering the messages via verbal and non-verbal means) no matter the communication can be conscious or sub-conscious. In non-verbal especially silent communication tells us about the relationship between people. Often this is more important than getting the content of the message across. The exchange of ideas about this non spoken communication, which tells us something about the relationship between people, is known as meta communication. Actually it communicates about communication.

Only Words are not enough:
While connecting with a person, we also have to make it clear to one another how the content of a spoken message or term needs to be interpreted. For an instance, we do not tell or express one another very easily how we feel about the other person or how the words of a message need to be interpreted. To make the implication of our words apparent, we make use of body language. Body language is the language of body without spoken words and is therefore termed as non-verbal communication. Either we don't communicate with words all the time, but we make use of body language almost all of the time. Like the handicapped who can neither speak nor talk, the only option is body language or gesture. Therefore, in this special case, non-verbal communication is the primary option for them. By this example also we can estimate the importance and necessity of body language.

Complementary language:
Mostly body language takes place unconscious to us. Therefore, its very vital to learn to read what other's body language says and its meaning as well as what we are conveying to the world about us through our body. We can become skilled in using our gestures for a purpose; as well as to learn to understand and interpret body language of others. It is necessary to make a note that body language has different connotations in different cultures. So, how we can interpret body language depends on the situation, culture, the relationship we have with whom we are delivering the message and gender as well. This means that there is not one particular sign that has the same meaning for different communities over the world. If one doesn't bear this is mind, he can be in a big mess without knowing.

The expression of feelings:
Through our body language, it is easy to express feelings or emotions. For example, if we do not like someone, it is often difficult to say that directly to the person. However, we can make it clear either intentionally or unintentionally through our body language. The opposite is also true. We may say that we are angry through words yet our body language may be saying loud and clear that we are not. This can be very confusing for the receiver. This is usually described as giving out double messages--one message in words and an opposite message through the body.
Its also difficult to lie or cover up our feelings through body language. People may give their true feelings away by not being aware of their body language. Research has shown that most people pay more attention to and believe more readily, their impression of how a person acts through body language than what is said through words or verbal means. As a consequence we tend to doubt or put a question mark behind the spoken words if they do not correspond with what the language of the body has conveyed.

Body language (Part-viii: Deceptive Appearance)

2010-04-12T15:22:00.001+01:00

Body language (Part-viii: Deceptive Appearance)

Facial Appearance: When we observe the face of a person, we can determine the ethnic origins, age, gender, jewellery, make-up etc or simply we can see the image that the person wants to project self before others. To make a character judgement from facial structure and appearance only can be superficial. Facial appearance is only one of the wide range of non-verbal gestures that we need to take into consideration.

Generally the expression on a person’s face is the foremost and basic indicator of his/her emotions like happiness, surprise, sadness, anger, fear, disgust and many more. Different types of smile transmit different non-verbal information reflecting the basic personality with respect to his/her body language. Before analyzing someone’s personality through his body language, we must be aware of the fact that some people have cultivated much greater control over their expression than others. These kind of appearance or expression can be deceptive or misleading because they have mastered in hiding the actual or true message for being delivered.

Eye Contact: Eye contact is one of the most important non-verbal cues as described earlier. We are expected to meet other peoples’ gazes when we communicate. If we fail to do this, we can be interpreted or meant as being deceptive, weak, bored or angry. There are actually complicated rules governing eye behaviour, with much variation on the direction of the gaze and the length of the time you look at someone. For example, you will look less frequently and for shorter periods, if you are lying or it you are embarrassed or if you dislike the person you are talking to. The longer gaze indicates more intimacy and shows a sign of interest and attention. Depending on the context and relationship, it can be friendly, hostile or sexual. While eye contact is supremely important in Western Society you will need to know that in some societies- mostly Asian, for example—it can be embarrassing and intrusive. So, before dealing with personalities from another culture, you must be aware of their background and allow for the differences in their culture.

Voice: Voice is another reliable indicator of personality, nationality, regional origin, social class, education level, age and gender. Allied to para-language (rate, pitch, stress, intonation) it can carry up to 38 percent of the message conveyed. It also discloses the emotional state of the speaker and conveys attitudes such as sarcasm.

Body/Physique: Body in general reinforces the face, so that if a face shows dejection the body will tend to droop. This is not surprising, as it is the whole person who is having these feelings. The body often reflects an individual’s self-concept indicating their self-esteem or confidence level.

Clothing: This aspect of non-verbal body language gives you a lot of information. The clothes a person wears can disclose economic and social class, values, beliefs, morals, ethics and personality as a whole. Clothes are used to project an image and to indicate group memberships and affiliations.

Posture: Posture refers to “how you position your body”, often indicating your feelings, emotions or attitudes at the particular period of time. Posture can be open or closed as described earlier. When you place some kind of barrier in front of you body---for an instance, folding arms across your chest or crossing your legs or your ankles indicate closed posture which is particularly defensive or rejection. And when your posture is open or has got no barrier between yourself and the other person then you are signaling receptivity or acceptance. For example—inclining the top half body towards the other person indicates interest and involvement in what they are saying or doing.

Space: Each of us has a different personal space requirement; this is because we do have individual personalities and experiences. Certain situations and cultural backgrounds can influence the amount of personal space required. Invading someone’s personal space can make that person uncomfortable and non-receptive and even can create negative condition. So, we must respect other’s personal space.

Touch: Out of all senses, the sense of touch has more potential with feelings and sensitivity. This type of non-verbal communication is extremely powerful and effective. It must be used with discretion. To be effective, touch must occur at the right moment and in the right context, otherwise it can be violently rejected and may even lead to charges of harassment. In general, we prefer not to be touched by other people especially who are totally stranger to us.

** Therefore before analyzing or going through any of the above mentioned body language gestures, only should have full knowledge regarding the field of body language **

Reiki (Part 2-Philosophy)

2010-04-12T05:13:00.000+01:00

Reiki (Part 2-Philosophy)
As described in earlier post also, Reiki is not associated with any material which is visible, nor does it have shape, nor name. There exists one Supreme Being, the Absolute Infinite, a Dynamic Force that governs the world and whole universe. It is an unseen spiritual power that vibrates which is unfathomable, immeasurable, and being a Universal Life force, it is incomprehensible to man. Yet, every single living being is receiving its blessing daily, awake or asleep,
Different teachers and masters call it the Great Spirit; the Universal Life Force; Life Energy because when applied, it visualizes the whole system; Ether Wave because it soothes pain and puts you into deep slumber as if under an anesthetic; and the Cosmic Wave because it radiates vibrations of exultant feeling and lifts you into harmony.
Reiki is a radionic wave like of radio. It could be applied locally or, as in short wave, a distant treatment could also be successfully executed. Reiki does not destroy delicate tissues or nerves, it is absolutely harmless or has got no negative side-effects. It should be applied and used daily as prevention. God gave us hands to use them to apply and heal, to retain physical health and mental balance, to free ourselves from ignorance and live in an enlightened world, to live in harmony with ourselves and others, and love all being.
When these rules are applied daily, the body shall respond and all we wish and desire to attain in this world is within reach---health, happiness and the road to longevity. Being a universal life force, from the Great Diving Spirit, Reiki belongs to all who seek and desire to learn the art of healing.

Reiki knows neither color, nor creed, nor age. It will find its way when the student is ready to accept it. He is shown the way. Initiation is a sacred ceremony and the contact is made. Because we are associating with the Divine Spirit, there is no error nor should we doubt. It is Absolute!
With the first contact or initiation, the hands radiate vibrations when applied to the ailing part. It relieves pain, stops the blood from open wound; your hands are ready to heal acute and chronic ailments. in the human beings, plants, fowls and animals. In acute cases, Reiki application for only a few minutes is needed. In chronic cases, the first step is to find the cause and effect. It is necessary to undress the patient completely, but it is better to loosen all tight clothings so that the patient may relax, lying on the table in face up position. Most important is to find the cause of the illness.

Reiki Healers: (Source: Reader's Digest Guide to Alternative Medicines)
The person who uses Reiki to heal self and others is termed as Reiki Healers. They use prayer, meditation or visualization to link themselves to the divine power or healing forces which are then channelized to patients or victims, activating their power to heal themselves. They patients even may not be aware that they are being healed.
Any mental, physical or spiritual distress can be treated. The patient taking no active part, may still benefit, although it is thought that a relaxed, positive patient may be more receptive to healing energies liberated within him. Because the patient does not have to participate actively, Reiki is said to be particularly suitable for babies, young children and animals, for very ill people, whose vitality and self-healing powers have been exhausted by lengthy illness, may gain special benefits. Reiki is also particularly suitable for those who are to ill to travel.
Helping patients to heal themselves is usually a gradual process. Instant cures can't be expected, especially where illness is the result of long-term factors such as unhealthy diet or ongoing stress or lack of physical exercise. In such cases, healing may help, but it is not offered as a replacement for more direct, orthodox therapies. Often healing is sought as a last resort when the body's defenses are already depleted. Although it has proves successful in some cases regarded by orthodox medicine as incurable, patients should not expect healing to succeed immediately where all else has failed. Progress is very often slow, sometimes even preceded by worsening symptoms as the body seeks to regain its ability to fight the illness. Healers never accept that a case may be incurable, and this alone encourages many seriously ill patients. Healing of any type is likely to produce positive psychological effects. Even in cases where a condition can't be reversed or improved, a patient may be relieved of distress and brought to accept his or her condition.

Reiki (The Healing Touch)

2010-04-07T12:57:00.000+01:00

Reiki (The Healing Touch)

Before going through its depth, firstly its very important to know what “REIKI” means. The term Reiki means Universal Life Force Energy. It is defined as the power which acts and lives in all created living matter. That means we all do possess Reiki power inherent within us. Actually, Reiki is made by two parts REI and KI. Rei describes the universal boundless aspect of the energy while Ki stands for the vital life force energy which flows through all living beings. It is one of the highest form of energy in existence. It can be said as the life force.
Reiki is for all people of all religion, gender, caste, tribe, morals and ethics. It doesn’t describe any particular religion of ethical values neither it holds no creed or doctrine. It has nothing to do with spiritualism or the occult in any shape or form.

--Reiki—A Holistic Medicine:
The adjective holistic is derived from the ancient Greek word “holos” which means “whole”. Interest in the holistic approach to medicine was revived in the early 1970s. Holistic Medicine is an alternative medicine technique with natural methods, alternative to a scientific approach that attempts to understand all phenomena including human beings by reducing them to their most basic biological processes. Holistic medicine does not reject or neglect the need for swift and sophisticated medical or surgical actions, but does emphasize health promotion, and patient education. Its objective is somewhat like “Prevention is better than cure”. Apart from relying or depending in modern medicinal tools, holistic medicine welcomes all the techniques which have been developed in various culture in the run of time. Thus, it makes use of a variety of therapeutic approaches. These approaches are termed as ( Alternative Medicine like Homeopathy, Ayurveda, Acupuncture etc). We have an enormous internal potential which is making us healthy by balancing the aura. Holistic medicine does have many approaches but some major are as follows:
1) Humanistic medicine, which emphasizes the relationship between physicians and patients, and the psychological and spiritual development of both the patient and physician.
2) Psychosomatic medicine, which is concerned with the interdependence and mutual influence of psychological and physical factors.
3) Behavioural medicine, which stresses the psychological and social causes and effects of illness or particular ailment.

--Relation of Reiki with Personality Development:
The keypoint to Reiki is its simplicity. As like other branches or tool of personality development, Reiki is one of them. By learning and mastering in Reiki techniques, we can not only heal ourself but also can use this tool to others by transferring pure or positive energy to their body. When we use Reiki in self, we’ll balance the energy, increase positive energy and kick out the negatives which ultimately increase our working potential, releasing withheld emotional blocks and phobias, hence developing the overall personality and potential. When we get success in treating others with the help of Reiki, we feel good within internally which boosts our self-esteem or confidence. Its also good to treat others without risking of any negative side-effects like allopathic medications.

--Effects of Reiki Treatment:
Once a person is attuned, he/she needs only to have a desire to do Reiki on self or others, and the energy is immediately drawn on its own accord; no further intense focus from the practitioner is needed. Reiki is extremely effective technique of total relaxation like autogenics, yoga, meditation, hypnotism so it also helps to reduce mental pressure or stress. One is filled with the internal peace of mind, vitality, and joy. Reiki is a wonderful tool to help one develop conscious awareness, the very key to enlightenment. Reiki affects each individual in a very personal way, the result being determined by the needs of the person being treated. Some common denominators which seem to result from most treatments are given below (source: Healing touch of Reiki: PBV Lakshmi and PVS Shastry). Reiki
(i) Balance Energy.
(ii) Increases creativity.
(iii) Helps release emotions.
(iv) Amplifies energy.
(v) Works on causal level of disease.
(vi) Heals holistically without any negative side effects.
(vii) Increases awareness.
(viii) Slows the aging process.

Body Language (Part-VII)

2010-04-07T12:54:00.001+01:00

Body Language (Part-VII)

Territorial Gestures:
People leaning against objects or other people, claim territorial rights on them, showing thereby their dominance. When a person touches a property, it becomes an extension of his body, thereby staking a claim on it. Lover may have their arms around their beloveds, business executives may place their feet on their desk or lean against their office doorway. A person can intimidate another person by his territory.

Ownership Gestures:
People in high positions use the ownership gesture more frequently. The leg-over-chair gesture signifies the person’s ownership of the particular chair and reflects his easy-going, relaxed and carefree attitude. This may show his lack of concern, when he adopts this gesture in front of a person who is seated before him with a problem. If the chair has no arms, it is quite likely that the person may plant both his feet on the desk, thus claiming ownership.

Mirror Images:
A person with gestures and postures identical to the person with whom he is talking, denotes mutual liking and that he is in agreement with him in matters concerning both. Sometimes, identical gestures reflect a non-verbal challenge. An employee may copy his boss’s gestures to influence a face-to-face encounter, as this puts the boss in a receptive and relaxed frame of mind.

Spatial zones:
Interpersonal space zones have been created by humans to mark and identify specific areas while interacting with or defending themselves against other individuals. The five interpersonal spatial zones, which tend to vary when people from other cultures meet, are:
1. Close intimate zone (0 inches-6inches)
2. Intimate Zone (6 in- 1.5 feet)
3. Personal Zone (1.5 ft- 4 ft)
4. Social Zone (4ft-12ft)
5. Public Zone (over 12ft)

How to Build a Positive Self-Esteem

2010-04-06T04:33:00.001+01:00

How To Build A Positive Self-Esteem!

When the matter of developing personality comes, we can never exclude the topic of self-esteem or confidence. According to Oxford Dictionary, Self-esteem is the confidence in one's own worth or abilities. This is having faith in oneself or on whatever we do. To build a positive self-esteem is very important for total personality development. For an instance, instead we have ocean of knowledge, we know a lot of things but if we do not have self-esteem of self-confidence then we can't express our talents before others, hence it lies dormant inside or within us which is equivalent to nothing or we know nothing. So, what will be the importance of us being knowledgeble or what that kind of wisdom worth? Therefore, to develop our personality as a whole, self-esteem is the inevitable tool. From what i have learnt from Shiv Khera's book entitled " YOU CAN WIN ", i am going to give some keypoints here on how to build a positive self-esteem.

Initially, I am touched by one saying in this book that "If you want to build a positive self-esteem quickly, one of the fastest way is to do something for those people who can't repay you back in any kind". Or, simply help those people without the expectation of getting anything back for your help. Involve yourself in social works, volunteer for disabled of poor people. Shiv Khera has very nicely described the power of attitude in this book so i experience that building positive self esteem finally leads to positive attitude which in turn make the way for achieving success making you a winner.

Thinking like "this is my life, i will do and can do whatever i like", is one of the phrase which does more damage or bad than good. So, inspite of whatever we are, our position, we shall always making our mind for gaining positive and productive thinking. Helping those who cannot pay you not only makes you feel good internally but also increase your popularity among self. Acutually, in this era, people are running so much for earning money, property that they are forgetting to know who they are indeed. In this race, either they earn money but they are losing the invaluables i.e. their health, relationship, and most importantly internal peace of mind. Diseases like diabetes, hypertension, depression, bipolar, schizophrenia are not only due to genetic transformation but these external causes are also hidden factors. We dont have time to calm our mind by meditating, practicing yoga, exercising. WORK WORK and again WORK. We are ready to take allopathic medications whole life, but we simply forget a simple quote "Prevention is better than cure". I am talking all of these here because all these topics are interlinked or interrelated.

In his book, Shiv mentions that, there are two kinds of people in this world- givers and takers. "Takers eat well and Givers sleep well". Please read this quote once more. This has a very powerful meaning and potential. Yes! takers are well eaters. They eat until it burst out from belly but givers on the other hand sleeps with peace and internal freedom. Although, givers can suffer from starvation, they can sleep well, we can join this phrase with the incident of Lord Gautama Buddha. If food, clothes and shealter would be the ultimate power or need of human beings, why did BUDDHA left all of these as he was the prince? He could get whatever he wanted or liked but he had left his kingdom and his new born son for the sake of what? Yah! peace of mind, internal freedom. So, it is verified from here too that how much important internal freedom and internal peace means and how much it is needed for us. Please think about this. Shiv also mentions that givers have high self-esteem, positive attitude, and keen interest in serving the society. As human beings, by nature, we all have the faculty of giving and taking or mutual help. But, a healthy personality with high self-esteem is one that not only has its need to take but also to give. Here is an example from the book "YOU CAN WIN" which really worth a lot.

A man was washing his new car when his neighbour asked him," When did you get the car?" He replied, "My brother gifted it to me." The neighbour said, " I wish i had a car like that." The man replied," You should wish to have a brother like that." The neighbour's wife was listening to the whole conversation and she interrupted, " I wish i was a brother like that." What a positive way to think!

So, to build personality, internal peace as well as positive self-esteem, the only keypoint is "GIVE SOMETHING FOR WHICH YOU ARE NOT WILLING TO BE PAID".

PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT- LAW OF ATTRACTION-I

2010-03-31T07:38:00.003+01:00

PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT- LAW OF ATTRACTION-I

As i am describing in all of my posts or articles that personality development is the only tool which beings success and prosperity in life. And the master of controlling what we do and what we are doing is hold on the ultimate organ "THE BRAIN". So, to raise the attraction potential or to be attractive also it plays a significant role. While doing this process, actually we will be developing our personality indeed.
It is clear what the law of attraction is all about: to choice a mate best suited by their skill to endure although it is not their only factor when determining the human match. It leaves great deal for leeway for those people have not found the niche with associates of the opposite sex. Yet there are some techniques that can be used to exponentially increase the impending attraction.

Attraction tip #1 - Dressing for Success - It is easy to forget that over the lessons of the day, the way a person presents themselves will determine how others' opinions of them will help or hinder in finding a mate.. It is important that people take pride in themselves. Remember the old saying... first impressions are everything. There is no second chance to make an impression. A person forms their opinion of you based on how you look, not what matters on the
inside. Select attire that are relaxed but fit you well and in style plus colors that are gratifying to the person. Anyone can create an optimistic feeling to those of the opposite sex. If you feel like you need a little help in this area, a sales clerk at a retail-clothing store can help in selecting clothing that is just right for a person. Many have been in the industry for a long time so they are pleased to lend their experience in putting their customers in clothing that suits them and putting their foot in the doorway of attraction. This also helps them in getting customers to return to their shop.

Attraction Tip #2 - Get a Hobby - With today's busy lifestyle, most of it revolving around work. Not many people have a hobby anymore, with them focusing all their time on work. Work does not give us an enormous deal of time to talk with other people. But getting a hobby increases those chances dramatically. It shows others that you have something other than work in your life. You don't want to be remembered as a workaholic.

Attraction Tip #3 - Keep Up on Current Events - This provides excellent communication interaction between people. You can be in a group and know what people are talking about if you keep up on the current events. You do not want to be the only one not chiming in on the important details.

Attraction Tip #4 - Smile - If you are smiling it means you are self confident and do not mind if opposite sex members cone to meet you or you them. It doesn't mean you aren't shy, but you are confident in yourself. Smiling will naturally get people curious about whom you are and ask questions.

Attraction Tip #5 - Find unknown but not uncomfortable situations - This can serve as two parts for the attraction. It opens a person to situations that normally felt weird to be in and gets the person to meet other people. Having someone show the ropes of your present area shows in a
helpful way your willingness to adapt. Using the tricks of the trade means you won't be alone for long. Do not expect results right away because beauty is not only skin deep, it is also on the outside.

*These law of attractions are proven and hold the capacity of make an individual attractive. But whatever be the objective or motive, one should always possess positive attitude*

Body Language (Part-VI-Courtship Gestures)

2010-03-31T07:32:00.002+01:00

BODY LANGUAGE (PART -VI--COURTSHIP GESTURES)

As like in determining the behaviour, attitude, thinking pattern, body language is also important in expressing and pointing the gestures of courtship or attraction. To be attracted to opposite gender or to attract the opposite, personality development is the only tool to make the first and foremost impression whatever be the motto of attraction or being attracted.

Male Courtship Gestures:
Men like to preen (making oneself look attractive) when they see a woman approaching them and one can find them straightening their tie or collar or brushing away imaginary dust from their shoulder or rearranging their coat or shirt or hair. A male may show his aggressive sexual display by the thumbs-in-belt gesture that focuses on his genital region or he could turn his body towards the female and point his foot at her or hold her gaze intimately for longer period of time with his pupils dilated. A man with his hands on his hips shows off his physique and his willingness to get involved with the female in front of him. While leaning against the wall or when seated, he might spread out his legs to attract attention.

Female Courtship Gestures:
Women also like to preen more than a man do. They touch their hair, smooth their clothes, place one or both hands on hips, point a foot towards the male, gaze intimately for a long duration. Women like to toss their hair back from over the shoulder or away from their face. An interested female will expose the soft, smooth skin of her wrist, considered to be one of the highly erotic areas of the whole body. While sitting or standing may keep her leg wider than normal when a male comes. She may hold his gaze, with her eyelids partially drooping, long enough for him to notice, before she looks away. She may wet her lips, denoting sexual invitation. A woman may tuck one leg under the other and point the knee to the person she is interested in. The leg twine or the crossing of one leg over the other is the most enticing body language in sitting position that a woman can take to attract attention.

**These are some basic gestures or body language relating to courtship or attraction**

Forensic Handwriting Analysis

2010-03-29T09:21:00.001+01:00

Forensic Handwriting Analysis

Well, we all are familiar what the terminology "forensic" means. Oxford Concise Dictionary defines "forensic" as relating to or denoting the application of scientific methods and techniques to the investigation of crime.This means it has a very important role in investigating crime and make the way to find truths. There are various ways and tools of forensic science, one of them is forensic handwriting analysis. As the title suggests, it means determining the suspect of a crime with the help of handwriting analysis. So,apart from personality development, handwriting analysis got more fields to focus.

For example:Crime scene investigators (CSI's) find a suicide note at the scene of a homicide. How do they know if the deceased is the person that wrote the note or if the note was written by somebody else?

This job is not as easy as it sounds. Here also comes the power of handwriting analysis, i have described in my previous articles about how one can analyze handwriting perfectly and all those techniques are the key-points in forensic handwriting analysis also. But some major topics i want to elaborate here too. Suicide, Murder, Homicide etc are negative personality traits.When making comparisons between two handwritten documents, a forensic handwriting analyst looks for points of consistency and points of discrepancy between the known handwriting standards and the questioned document. The forensic scientist looks for the following:

Content--Grammar, punctuation, and diction help steer the analyst toward consistent mistakes, repeated phrases, and other hints that suggest at the author's ethnicity or educational level.
Overall form--The shape, size, slant, proportion, and the beginning and ending strokes of the letters are an integral part of the author's overall form.
Format and margins--The width of the margins, consistency of the spaces between words, and the slant between lines fall into this group, which encompasses the overall form and layout of the handwriting.
Line features--Speed of writing, fluidity, and pressure of the pen used give clues about line features as well as the spacing between the letters and words and the connectivity between the letters.

Forensic handwriting analysts scrutinize all of these features when making comparisons among documents and signatures. No individual feature makes an accurate comparison, but a combination of features may allow analysts to find out whether suspect and sample writings came from the same person. Based on what they find in their examination, the forensic analyst may conclude that the documents are one of the following:

Perfectly match
Mostly match
Somewhat match
Do not match at all.

So, forensic handwriting analysis plays an important role in catching the culprit or by differencing the innocent with the actual criminal.

Source in Youtube

Body Language (Part-V)

2010-03-18T03:36:00.003Z

BODY LANGUAGE (Part-V)

1) Eye Signals:

As like other parts of body like limbs, heads, eyes also have great impact and effect in determining body language. Eyes are termed as the windows to one’s souls. They reveal the most accurate of all human communication signals. On a person getting excited, the pupils dilate contract into beady eyes when one is angry or suspicious.

(i) Gaze Behavior—

A person who is dishonest cannot hold another person’s eyes for long duration. A person, on finding another attractive, can hold their gaze for a long time with his pupils dilated. A person issuing a non-verbal challenge contracts his eyes and holds the gaze for a long time.

(ii) Business gaze—

when discussing business matters, one can imagine a triangle on the other person’s forehead and keep his gaze directed there to create a serious atmosphere. As long as the gaze doesn’t drop below the level of the other’s eyes, the control of the interaction can be maintained.

(iii) Social gaze—

To develop a social atmosphere, one needs to drop one’s gaze below the other person’s eye level, focusing on the triangular area, which in this case lies between the eyes and the mouth.

(iv) Intimate gaze—

The intimate gaze focuses across the eyes and below the chin to the other parts of body. When one is near, the gaze is on the triangular are between the eyes and the chest or breast. When one is far, the gaze is between the eyes and the crotch.

(v) Sideways gaze—

This glance indicates either interest or hostility. When it is accompanied by slightly raised eyebrows or a smile, it shows interest and is especially used as a courtship gesture. When the sideways glance is combined with a frown or the corners of the mouth turned down, it denotes a hostile, suspicious or critical attitude.

(vi) Eye block gesture—

This gesture involves closing one’s eyes for a few seconds as if for a moment erasing the other person from his mind. When a person becomes bored or uninterested or feels superior to the other, he blocks the person from his sight by closing the eyelids for a few seconds. When a person feels superior, his head is tilted backwards and is accompanied by the eye block gesture, indicating that he is looking down his nose.

2) Other popular body languages:

(i) Straddling a chair—

When a person is under physical or verbal attack, he normally

straddles a chair, which shields his body. More chair-straddlers are aggressive and dominant, trying to take control of a group of bored people.

(ii) Picking imaginary fluff—

When a person is not in agreement with the other’s opinions but feels compelled to give his opinion, he picks imaginary pieces of lint from his clothing, complementing the gesture by looking away from others towards the floor.

(iii) Head gestures—

The nodding of the had is a universal gesture signifying ‘yes’ and the shaking of head meaning the opposite ‘no’. However, there are some places where the gestures have totally opposite meaning. When a person has a neutral attitude on what he is hearing, the basic head position is with his head up, occasionally nodding. When he tilts his head to one side, he is showing interest in what he hears. A negative and judgemental attitude is indicated when the head is down.

Body Language (Part-IV)

2010-03-13T11:31:00.002Z

BODY LANGUAGE (Part-IV)

In this article i am going to discuss about the body language relating to limbs as well as face, their meanings and how they are delivered.

1. Hand to face gestures:

(i) The mouth guard-- The mouth guard involves the hand covering the mouth with the thumb pressed against the cheek, implying that the person wishes to suppress something being voiced. A person using this particular gesture while speaking is telling a lie while if he/she uses this gesture when someone else is speaking indicates that he/she feels that the other person is lying. Some people camouflage their gesture by faking a laugh.

(ii) The eye rub-- When a men lie, they rub their eyes vigorously; if the lie is a big one, they will often look away, generally towards the floor. Women, on the other hand, conscious of their looks, use a small, gentle rub just below the eye; they generally avoid eye contact with the listener, preferring to look up at the ceiling.

(iii) The ear rub-- A person wishing not to head what the other person is saying, discreetly puts the hand around or over the ear. This body language is seen mostly in young children as they shut out both ears what they don’t want to hear. When a person pulls at his earlobe or bends the entire ear forward to cover the ear hole, it indicates that he had heard enough or want to speak now.

(iv) The collar pull-- When a person realizes that his lie has been caught, he tends to pull his collar, probably to ease the stinging sensation in his neck caused by the lie. This gesture is also used when a person is angry or frustrated and by pulling at the collar away from the neck, he hopes to allow cool air to circulate around his neck to calm himself down.

(v) Fingers in the mouth-- A person under pressure invariably put his fingers in his mouth, unconsciously trying to relieve his stress. This body language is an external expression for an inner need for reassurance.

(vi) Cheek and Chin gestures-- A person supporting his head with his hand, indicates his boredom, lack of interest or attempts to not fall asleep. The continual foot tapping and finger-drumming on the table are signs of impatience and not boredom. When a person has negative or critical thoughts, his thumb supports his chin while his index finger points vertically up the cheek. While making decision, his hand will move to the chin and begin a chin-stroking gesture.

(vii) Decision making gestures-- A bespectacled person might remove his glasses from his face and put one end of the frame in his mouth, instead of using chin-stroking gesture. A person may put his pencil tip or fingertip in his mouth while making decision, any objects in his mouth suggesting that he is unsure and needs assurance in making a quick decision. When a person is making decision, his hand may be stroking his chin but as he begins to lose interest in the speaker, his head begins to rest on his chin.

2. Limb Barriers: Limbs act as a barrier to protect a person from any hostile situation or condition and has an inevitable impact in determining body language.

(i) Folded arm gestures-- Crossing of arms acts as a buffer against an imminent threat or hostile situation, signifying that he is tense, pessimistic or defensive, or he may be paying less attention to what the speaker is saying.

(ii) Standard arm-cross-- There are three common arm-cross gestures (defense against an unfavorable condition): the universal gesture (signifies defensive or negative attitude), the reinforced arm-cross (reinforced by clenched fists, indicates a defensive attitude, ready for physical assault) and the arm gripping gesture (gripping the arm shows a restrained negative attitude). Most people, who disagree with what they hear, also adopt an arms-folded position. Status can also influence arm-folding gestures. In the superior type of arm-crossing, both thumbs point vertically upwards, signifying that the user is cool and self-confident, with a folded arm giving him a protected feeling.

(iii) Partial arm-cross barrier-- A subtler arm-cross barrier is the partial one, in which one arm swings across the body and holds or touches the other arm to form the barrier. Another form is holding hand with the other.

(iv) Crossed-leg gestures-- The crossed-leg gesture indicates negative or defensive attitude. In the standard leg-cross position, one leg is crossed neatly over the other and may be used to indicate a nervous, defensive or reserved attitude. When this gesture is accompanied by crossed arms, it indicates that the person has withdrawn from the conversation. Women show their displeasure with their men by adopting this gesture.

(v) Ankle-lock-- It also suggests negative or defensive attitude. Males generally clench their fists on their knees or grip the chair's arms while their ankles are locked to suggest defensive attitude or pessimism or that they are holding back an emotion. Females may hold their knees together, feet to one side, hands resting side by side or on top of the other on the lap.

(vi) Foot-lock-- This body language is almost exclusively prominent in women who are shy or timid. When she locks one foot around the other leg, it indicates that she likes to be in her own shell.

Applying Psychology-II

2010-03-12T05:42:00.004Z

Applying psychology (Inner Life Personality-II)

Fundamentals of life: Personality, then, is concerned with some of the big questions about the human condition. A prime example is the topic of human nature. What is it that makes us human? Do we have instincts? Do we have free will? Do we have genuine choices in what we do socially? To what extent is what we are dependent on what we inherit? It should be
said that at present there are no final answers to this question. Certainly, we differ from one another in temperament, some basic characteristics that are there from birth and that seem to endure. Many parents know that their children are quite different from one another from the start, for example, in how active they are, or how afraid they are in new situations or how easily they can be soothed or even in how much they smile and laugh. But there is far more to personality than temperament and there are huge complexities in the links between the infl uence of environment and genes. Think of the many examples you know of very different people who have grown up in the same families. To ask another fundamental question: are you you or are you the situation?
In other words, do you have your personality because of traits or characteristics that are somehow within you or because of the influences of your environment? Over the years, various theorists have taken all possible standpoints on this question, but the received wisdom nowadays (as in most areas of psychology) is that the answer lies in a very intricate mixture of both sources of influence.
There are many more such questions, but probably the most important of them is about integration. It is basic to psychology to break down or analyse human functioning or behaviour into its parts, but personality is concerned with what all the parts are like when they are put together. How do we become integrated? When considering the ‘whole’ person, does something extra merge that is somehow more than the sum of the parts? Relevant here is the idea of self. Our own notions of our selves are important to the way in which we are integrated as entire persons.

Ways of looking at personality: As might be expected in an area as huge as personality, there have been many varied ways of looking at it. What follows is a very brief introduction to a few of the major types of theory of personality. Each of them emphasises something in particular and each of them is ‘right’ – in its own way. Each provides something significant to consider about personality and would be interesting to apply to people that you know as you think about them.

Traits:
One of the most enduring and important aspects of personality is the notion of trait. This is simply the name for the characteristics that make us unique or different from one another. They are stable (more or less) and can come from either our genes or environment or, more likely, from a mixture of the two. We are either born with a set of traits or we come to establish a set of traits through our interactions with the environment. The most influential way of looking at personality traits rests on the belief that everyone has the same set of traits and that we differ from one another only in the extent to which we show the various traits. Then the question becomes:
how many such fundamental traits are there? The answer ranges from three to 23, but the most widely held view currently is that there are five – called, appropriately enough, the Big Five. The traits are:
1 Neuroticism or emotional stability – calm, relaxed and stable versus moody, anxious and insecure.
2 Extraversion or surgency – talkative, forward, outspoken versus shy, quiet, bashful, inhibited.
3 Openness (intellectual/imaginative) – creative, intellectual versus uncreative, unimaginative.
4 Agreeableness – sympathetic, kind, warm, sincere versus unsympathetic, harsh, unkind.
5 Conscientiousness – organised, neat, meticulous versus disorganised, sloppy, impractical, careless.
It might be interesting to think of the degree to which members of your family or your friends could be characterised in terms of these fi ve traits, and the extent to which this gives a full picture of them. If it doesn’t, then what is missing? It is worth pointing out, by the way, that although the Big Five have been quite widely accepted, this is only within the English-speaking world (largely the American English-speaking world). Whether they apply to the same degree in Eastern cultures, for example, remains to be seen. If we think of traits as somehow basic to personality, then an important
question concerns how consistent such traits are across a person’s lifespan. Do they last throughout life or do they change (or can we force them to change) Can I change myself from a disagreeable, closed, moody, careless, anxious creature into an agreeable, open, outgoing, conscientious, relaxed player in the game of life?
This type of question has led to a long controversy among some personality theorists about the degree to which traits are dependent on, or modifiable by,
the environment. The usual view nowadays is that of interaction. In other words, the relationships between traits and behaviour or among traits depend on the type of situation that we might be in. So, for example, you might be very agreeable when you are with your friends but much less so when you are with members of your family. You might be highly conscientious when working with other people but relatively sloppy when working alone. You might be outgoing and open to new experiences when with people that you know well but shy, diffident and unimaginative when with strangers.

When personality goes wrong?
Can personality go wrong? After all, a person’s personality is their personality, rather than being right or wrong; it just is. While this might be true in one sense,
in another sense, the idea of abnormality is again an accepted part of Western culture. In this way, personality is thought of as going wrong simply in that it differs so much from the usual patterns of personality in the person’s culture.
The DSM-IV lists ten types of personality disorder. As they are described briefly below, try to think of someone you know or have known that might tend in these directions. After having read the descriptions, again think of the people you have known who might fit them and think about what they typically do that makes you think that they fit the category.
1 Anti-social – impulsive behaviour with little or no regard for others and no respect for the norms of social behaviour.
2 Borderline – instability, of mood, relationships, and even of the idea of self; impulsive and self-destructive.
3 Histrionic – constant need for attention and approval; dramatic behaviour,dependence and being seductive.
4 Narcissistic – grandiosity, exploitativeness, arrogance, obliviousness to others.
5 Paranoid – constant, pervasive and unwarranted mistrust of others.
6 Schizoid – emotional coldness, no interest in relationships.
7 Schizotypal – constantly inhibited or inappropriate socio-emotional behaviour, odd cognitions and speech.
8 Avoidant – constant worry over criticisms leads to avoidance of all interactions.
9 Dependent – selfl essness, neediness, fear of rejection.
10 Obsessive-compulsive – rigidity in behaviour and relationships, extreme perfectionism.
It is probably fair to say that we all experience many of these characteristics in minor form, from time to time. So it is important to remember that to be described as disordered is extreme. More particularly, they are pervasive; they are there constantly and have a huge impact on the life of the person who is experiencing them or on those around them. Another way of looking at these ‘disorders’ is to see each of them on a continuum ranging from normality at one end to severe or extreme disability at the other. So, while it might be normal to feel a bit paranoid at times or to sometimes feel moody and needy or to show an occasional lack of respect for others, if these impulses become extreme and pervasive, you or others will suffer.
There is insufficient space to consider each of the personality disorders in detail, so just three will be considered as examples – the fi rst two tend to be among the most awkward and extreme to deal with. To return to Freud’s ideas, those who have an anti-social personality disorder (also known as sociopaths or psychopaths) essentially appear to have no conscience; they appear only to consider their own desires, paying no attention to
those of anybody else. They seem to be driven entirely by the urges of their id with none of the checks and balances on this that rein most of us in most of the time. They might cause suffering but appear to experience nothing much in the way of guilt or remorse about this. They tend to be adept liars, to seek sensation in the extreme form without much thought of harm or danger and punishment does not work for them as a
deterrent. They can be attractive, charming and intelligent, and so can be good at manipulating other people. The more accomplished anti-social personalities might well be found, then, among the ranks of the con artists. The sociopath might be good at getting a new job but very poor at keeping it because their true restless, impulsive nature quickly comes to the fore, so they commit crimes of some sort. They might then con themselves out of punishment by appearing to be contrite and remorseful and then immediately go down a similar route. As well as a lack of shame, they also lack empathy – they simply cannot put themselves in the position of someone else. This leads to an extreme ruthlessness in their dealings with others. Interestingly, those with an extreme
anti-social personality disorder can appear in any walk of life, from a murderer, on the one hand, to a successful member of the corporate or political world, on
the other. One final point to bear in mind when thinking of the anti-social personality
concerns the social context. There are some contexts in which to be impulsive and aggressive and deal without much thought of others to the immediacies of life is not inappropriate. For example, if one grew up in a war-ravaged city or was born into the high-crime area of a city such as Los Angeles, then such an approach to life might be a recognised way to survive. In one sense, such an approach is still anti-social, but in another it is scarcely abnormal or inappropriate; the social context matters.
The borderline personality disorder is perhaps the most difficult and in some ways the most interesting of them all. It does not mean that the person has a personality that borders on the abnormal. Rather, it refers to instability. People with this disorder become suddenly angry or anxious or depressed with no apparent reason. They vary between extreme self-doubt and self-importance, from idealizing other people to despising them. They become extremely dependent on other people, particularly new friends or a new therapist but simultaneously seem to be looking hyper-vigilantly for ways in which they will be abandoned or rejected. There might also be a tendency to self-mutilation (burning or cutting) or even suicide. In the extreme, a ‘borderline’ person might become dissociated, losing track of time, feeling unreal, even forgetting who they are. As is obvious, any relationships for such a person will be, at the least, problematic and, at the most, extremely tempestuous. The diagnosis also, in some ways, can make matters worse, simply because the person with a borderline personality disorder is so difficult for a therapist to deal with. Their behaviours often seem wilful and so it is hard for any therapist to withhold judgement or attach blame to the person,
both of which are essential to a therapeutic approach. Interestingly, it is the psychoanalytic tradition that has provided some of the more useful insights into the borderline condition. For example, it is possible that they have parents who derive a great deal of fulfillment from their child’s dependence on them, this leading the developing child to difficulties in distinguishing self from others. This would make them hypersensitive to the opinions of others (it is as though it is their self-opinion), so if they perceive rejection, they might start also to reject (and even begin to harm) themselves. For the same reasons, they tend to see themselves and others in a very dualistic way as either ‘all good’ or ‘all bad’ and veer from one to the other view with
no consistency. A fine portrayal of the anti-social personality is the character Alex in the movie Fatal Attraction. In fact, fiction in general, whether in the form of movies or novels, frequently gives accurate characterisations of the various personality disorders. See, for example, Patricia Highsmith’s ‘Ripley’ series for the anti-social personality.
The narcissistic personality is entirely self-centred, needs to be constantly admired and has little or no insight into other people’s feelings. In this sense, this condition is similar to the anti-social personality. They not only have a strong sense of their own superiority but also a powerful sense of entitlement – they expect things to come their way, as of right. Often, then, they choose friends who are clearly weaker and less able than themselves from whom they can expect the adulation that they need. There is an essential paradox to the narcissistic personality – although they seem to be completely self-aggrandising, their self-image is very vulnerable. They need to be recognised, to be greeted by everyone, to be warmly welcomed everywhere, and, of course, most of the time this does not happen. They therefore often reject or disdain other people because those people are not giving them the praise and recognition that they regard as their due. If this is linked with their lack of concern for others, it makes them relatively
difficult and unpleasant people to be with. The main pronouns they use are ‘I’ and ‘me’ and they have very little concern for the other person in any relationship they might have. This also makes them likely to be envious of the successes of others, believing that such successes should be theirs and theirs alone. With the narcissistic personality disorder it is useful to see such disorders in terms of dimensions. Most of us have times of self-absorption or times when we envy others their success or times when we seem to be overly concerned with ‘I’ and ‘me’. However, think of what it would be like to be in that state all of the time and in the extreme.

Applying Psychology (Inner Life-Personality)

2010-03-11T02:58:00.006Z

Applying Psychology (Inner Life-Personality)

Scenes from life

John and Jean are brother and sister. They get on very well and even though one is 19 and the other 18, they spend a fair amount of time together. They both attend the same university, Jean studying History and John studying French Literature. Several times a week, they meet for coffee or lunch and generally catch up with how things are going for each of them. But they are very different from each other.
Jean is outgoing and loves anything new. It is not as if she cannot settle to routine – she can, but nevertheless there is nothing she likes more than a new experience, social, physical or intellectual. When she is bored, she seeks out new things to do. Already she has been on several overseas trips and has tried her hand at numerous activities. She worries about none of this, but remains equitable and balanced all the time. She sleeps well, doesn’t have a hang-up about her weight or her appearance and, generally
speaking, is thought by most people to be reliably good company, an interesting person with whom to spend time. By contrast, John is moody. He likes a fi xed routine in his life, with as much as possible being certain. He becomes highly anxious when things
get out of kilter or seem unpredictable. He nods politely to many people but has few friends, unlike his sister who has many. The friends he makes tend to last for only a limited time. They never know quite where they are with him because he frequently says so little or makes conversation that is full of innuendo rather than direct. He sleeps poorly and often wakes in the night covered in sweat and then worries about not getting back to sleep and how tired he might be on the next day. Unlike Jean, he has never been
overseas and although he thinks that he should go, he never quite gets round to it.
Jean and John are sitting having a good conversation over coffee, with John for once being quite animated; he feels very secure with Jean. One of Jean’s friends comes up to them, a man than John knows a little as well, and invites them both to a retro party (everyone is to dress in 1960s style) in a few days. Jean quickly accepts, already thinking of what she will make or scrounge to wear. In the heat of the moment, John accepts as well and even discusses it all with Jean, starting to think of what he might wear. During the few days before the party, Jean barely gives it a thought, simply finding the clothes to wear and then forgetting about it until the night. The same evening of the invitation, John starts to worry; he worries about his clothes, who else will be there, whether he will have anything to say to anyone, whether anyone will speak to him, whether he should have accepted; what he will feel like afterwards; whether Jean will think less of him if he pulls out; and so it goes on.
They both go to the party. Jean has a fairly good time – it was not the best party she has ever been to, but she had some good fun and even had one or two memorable conversations. She very much enjoyed seeing one or two people make fools of themselves. Afterwards, she barely thought of the party again. John had a completely dreary time, anxious throughout. He spoke to very few people, felt out of place, even though his 1960s clothes were authentic. He smoked and drank too much, mostly by himself. The few conversations he had preyed on his mind for several days afterwards mainly in terms of what he might have said but did not, or that he might have said something better. He barely slept at all that night even though he left the party early.
Richard is 30 and works in a car sales yard. Or at least he has done for a few months, but he is thinking about moving on. There is not enough excitement in the job for him and he seems to be getting off-sides with many of the people he works with. He lives alone, having had a series of disastrous relationships with women, many of whom have left him because of his unpredictable violence. Most of them feel lucky to have escaped. He has
had nothing to do with his parents for years, even though they are still alive. They don’t mind the lack of contact because they had always found him a diffi cult child and an even more diffi cult adolescent. He stole and lied, cheated at school and was cruel to animals.
He has quite enjoyed the car sales job (even though it is time to move on) because he has usually managed to take home a good car on most evenings. He has used it to impress friends and to pick up women. Of course, he passes it off as his own. He has also managed to find a way into the petty cash at work and has quietly managed to keep himself going in daily expenses rifl ed in this way.

Not surprisingly, Richard has been before the courts on a few occasions although he has not yet been caught for anything major. On some of these occasions, he has had to see a social worker and in one case a clinical psychologist. They have all attempted to talk to him about what they and the rest of society see as his problems, or more properly have him talk to them about what he does and what he thinks and feels. But he finds this
extraordinarily diffi cult, not really understanding what they are getting at. In fact, all he could think of was what a waste of time – he could see no possibility of gaining anything for himself out of what was going on. In one case he did try to chat up the social worker, but even he was able to see that she wasn’t interested, or at least, if she was, she wasn’t letting on. The night before, he was idling around at work, wondering when to disappear for good; he had been in an accident. So far, he had managed
to hide the damage to the front of the car but wondered how long it would be before someone noticed. Not paying attention after a few drinks, he had suddenly found a cyclist in his way and could not brake in time. The damned old fool’s bike had broken one of the headlights and dented the front wing. He had checked after he had arrived at his fl at, not having stopped to see at the time. His only thought was to accelerate away before the police arrived. He had no idea what had happened to the cyclist.

Think about these questions:
-To what extent do you see your own behaviour as being under your own control or determined by your circumstances or the people around you?
- You know that you behave differently when you are at home or when you are out at a party, when you are in church or sitting in a library or when you are playing sport. What is your true personality?
- Have you changed much since you were a child? In what way? How did the changes come about? Are there some things abut you that haven’t changed at all?
- How good are you at describing other people? Can you judge character? How accurate are you? Do you project your own personal issues onto the person you are thinking about?
- Are you predictable? To what extent do you change unpredictably? Is there an inner core to you that remains unchanging?
- What would you describe as your style of personality?

These are some of the basic everyday questions that have led psychologists to be interested in personality. Each of us is unique and there are patterns to our behavior as individuals. Much of psychology is concerned with similarities between people, but personality is about individual differences, what it is that makes us unique. What makes one person mentally ill and another not, even though they are from the same family and from the same environment? What makes Jean, in the example above, a calm extravert and her brother John an anxious introvert? What makes a young woman highly motivated to have a high flying career and her sister settle down at a young age to a life of domesticity?
Why are some people like Richard, in the second example above, a sociopathic or anti-social personality?

Definition:
What, then, is personality? In the everyday sense of the word, personality is something that we all possess to some degree, or to put it more extremely, something that we either have or do not have. ‘Well, she’s certainly got personality.’ ‘He’s got no personality at all.’ By contrast, in psychology, the word denotes an area of study that is concerned with the differences between people. This is a huge topic and so, not surprisingly, there have been very many defi nitions of personality put forward. They vary from the very general to the highly inclusive. Here are two recent examples that demonstrate the two types:
Those characteristics of the person or of people generally that account for consistent patterns of behaviour. (Pervin, 1989)
Personality is the set of psychological traits and mechanisms within the individual that are organised and relatively enduring and that influence his or her interactions with, and adaptations to, the environment (including the intrapsychic, physical and social environments). (Larsen & Buss, 2002) It is clear that we are here dealing with a person’s make-up, whatever characteristics they have that make them what they are. It seems equally clear that although each of us is unique, as humans, we have general characteristics that set us apart from other species and some of the complexities involved in these characteristics are buried quite deeply and have causes that are frequently difficult to pin down. Pervin (1989), one of the pre-eminent personality researchers, puts it well when he suggests that the study of personality seeks to answer:
-What are people is like what are their characteristics?
-How do people become as they are? In particular, the question here is how do nature and nurture (heredity and environment) play their part?
- Why do people do what they do? This question about motivation.
*So, if you know that a friend or member of your family is more anxious than most people, you might want to fi nd out if the anxiety is typical of that person.How it came about, why it is being experienced now, and how and why the person behaves as he or she does when they are anxious*

Applying Psychology in our Daily Life

2010-03-10T03:56:00.003Z

Applying Psychology in our Daily Life (Part I--Intro)

Before going on deeply, its very necessary to understand what this terminology "psychology" stands for. According to Concise English Dictionary," psychology is the scientific study of the human mind and its functions, especially those affecting behavior in a given context". Its the total mental characteristics or attitude of an individual, mental factors governing a situation or activity.
So, generally, psychology is the study of mental processes as human behavior is originated from mind.
There are not any areas left which is untouched by psychology but major fields which are directly influenced or affected are the mental health treatment, performance enhancement areas, self help, ergonomics and even many other fields that affect health and daily life. The word psychology owes its roots to the Greek word psyche which means soul or mind. Psychology has evolved partially from philosophy and biology, and these date as far as the early Greek thinkers like that of Aristotle and even Socrates. It has been observed that the field and study of psychology dates has its roots since Wilhelm Wundt established the first psychological lab in Leipzig in Germany. The research studies conducted by the Wundt included the school of thought called as structuralism which involved the study of structures that have composed the structures that composed the mind. This categorization involved the analysis of the sensation and the feeling through the usage of introspection, which is considered as a highly subjective matter.

Areas of Psychology:

Psychology is one of the broadest and diverse fields. There are number of different subfields and specialty areas have emerged. The below mentioned areas have emerged as one of the most dynamic sub fields of the research sub fields within psychology:
1.Abnormal psychology-->>
The study of abnormal behavior and psychopathology. This specialty area focuses on the research and the treatment of different varieties of mental disorders and this area is also linked to the psychotherapy and even clinical psychology. The health professionals make the usage of the diagnostic and statistical manual of the mental disorders so as to diagnose the different applications of mental disorders.

2.Biological Psychology (biopsychology)--->>
This studies in detail how the different biological processes have an influence on the mind and the behavior. This kind of psychology aims at closely linking to the neurosciences and it also utilizes the different tools like MRI and PET scans so as to examine the brain injuries and even the brain abnormalities.

3.Clinical psychology--->>
This is another important area of psychology mainly focuses on the assessment, diagnosis and even the treatment of the mental disorders.

4. Cognitive psychology--->>
This mainly aims to study the human though processes and cognitions. The experts in this field mainly study on the topics like attention, memory, perception, decision making and language acquisition.

5.Comparative psychology-->>
The branch of psychology that deals with the study of animal behavior the knowledge about the animal behavior can lead to a deeper insight and understanding of human psychology.

Self-Confidence (How to build confidence-overview)

2010-03-09T06:05:00.000Z

Self-Confidence (How to build confidence-overview)

The formula for building confidence, indeed for bringing about any personal change, has five elements. First, develop self-awareness: know yourself, acknowledge that there are aspects
of yourself that you wish to change, and understand what has stopped you feeling confident so far. Then apply the I-T-I-A Formula© (pronounced eye-tea-ah):

- Assert your intention to be confident, and make a commitment.
- Change your thinking. This includes changing restrictive attitudes and beliefs.
- Use your imagination. Imagine yourself as a confident person.
- Act as if you are already confident. The more you speak and behave confidently,
the more confident you will become.

All four parts of the I-T-I-A Formula© are essential, otherwise the change is unlikely to be permanent, or worse, nothing may change at all. If this sounds a little daunting, don’t worry – this entire programme is designed around these five elements – self-awareness, intention, thinking, imagination and acting ‘as if ’. You will be introduced to them in small, practical steps to make it as easy as possible for you. All I ask is that you apply what you learn, stick with it
and be patient. Entrenched habits don’t change overnight.
"Self-esteem isn’t everything, it’s just that there’s nothing without it--Gloria Steinem"

Step I- Our first step is a simple but necessary one: buy a medium sized notebook. Use it for the written exercises in this programme, also to record your experiences and monitor your progress. Date each entry you make. Your notebook will become a good friend, teacher and confidant, so keep it near you, consult it every day and update it regularly. Commit yourself to spending some time on this programme every day. Just ten minutes a day – reading, learning, thinking, doing etc – adds up to over 60 valuable hours of confidence building activity a year from now. Twenty-five minutes a day builds up to 152 hours in a year – that’s almost a week! Can you think of a better investment for your future?

Step II- What difference would it make to your life if you knew without any doubt that you could achieve anything you set your heart on? If you like jot down a few comments in your notebook.What difference would it make to your life if you knew without any doubt that you could achieve anything you set your heart on? If you like jot down a few comments in your notebook.

Step III- Think about, and if you like write down, what confidence means to you. What do confident people do that unconfident people do not? What would you do differently if you were confident? For example, perhaps you would find it easier to speak up for
yourself, show your emotions, meet new people, or take on more responsibility at work?

Step IV- Write down three beliefs that you hold about yourself which could be limiting your confidence. Now think of three beliefs you would rather have, beliefs that would
empower you and bring confidence. Cross out the limiting beliefs and write these empowering beliefs in their place.
what would you have to do for these new beliefs to come true?

Step V- Make yourself very comfortable, either sitting or lying down. Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and relax. Allow your imagination to flow freely. What would it be like to be
perfectly confident? What difference would it make to your life? Let your mind drift for a few minutes, then open your eyes and write down everything that comes to mind. Keep this list: you have it in your power to experience all this one day. Remember, whatever your
mind can conceive and believe, you can achieve.
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Step VI- Commit yourself to behaving more confidently, as from now, even if it feels like an act. Do what actors, musicians, politicians, sports stars and many others do the world over – pretend you’re confident, even if you’re not. For instance, calm your breath, stand upright, look people in the eye and speak with a clear, unwavering tone: you will immediately feel more confident.

Step VII- From now on make this an unshakable rule: stop putting yourself down. Never say anything about yourself, either silently or out loud, that you don’t sincerely want to be or come true.

** Decide right now to treat yourself with love and respect and accept only the best for yourself for the rest of your life. Behind their public personae many well known people, including the most glamorous and esteemed, are desperately shy.
In a radio broadcast Terry O’Neill, the celebrity photographer whose pictures of the rich and famous have adorned glossy magazines all over the world, described the Paramount Studios’ centenary celebrations in Hollywood. A hundred top movie stars were brought together, many of whom wanted to meet Elizabeth Taylor. O’Neill spotted her cowering in a corner, close to the door. ‘I thought, no one’s going near her,’ he said, ‘so, as I’d met her before, I asked if I
could assist her. I pointed out that all those people were here to meet her. She said, “I’m so frightened, Terry. I’ve never seen so many stars in one room.” She was star struck – they all were! Then she asked me to introduce her to Robert de Niro. I didn’t know him, but I took her over, and it was amazing. It was like seeing two stumbling children talking with each other.’**

** Source--- 365 steps for self-confidence by David Lawrence Preston **
** Last word-- If u act confident, you will feel confident**

RECOGNIZING STRESS AND ITS EFFECTS

2010-03-06T03:26:00.001Z

RECOGNIZING STRESS AND ITS EFFECTS

Physical effects of stress
Stress arises when a real or perceived threat triggers a physical alarm response in us. The endocrine system, which governs the stress response, stimulates our adrenal, pituitary and hypothalamus glands to release hormones (adrenaline, noradrenaline, cortisol, testosterone and thyroxin) into the bloodstream. These stimulate us into action, mobilising our strength, speed and stamina in the following ways – many of which you’re bound to recognize from your own experience of being stressed: • Blood flow is instantly directed away from the skin, digestive tract, kidneys, liver and immune system, towards the brain, heart and muscles.
• The heart beats faster, pumping more blood to muscles.
• Blood pressure rises.
• Muscles tense up, ready for action.
• Breathing becomes fast and shallow, to increase oxygen intake.
• Pupils dilate, taking in more light.
• The liver releases stored sugar – levels of sugar, fat and cholesterol rise in the bloodstream, providing extra energy.
• Levels of platelets and blood clotting agents increase in the blood, to protect from excess bleeding in case of injury.
• Perspiration increases.
As you can imagine from this list, prolonged stress takes a considerable toll on the body.

How to measure my own stress levels?
The more something changes your life, the more stressful it’s likely to be. Some student stressors are listed below (on a life change scale of 0–100):
• Death of close relation (63) or friend (37)
• Illness/injury to self (53) or family (44)
• Cohabitation (50)
• Splitting up (65)
• Getting back together (45)
• Pregnancy (44)
• Sexual problems (39)
• Large loan (31)
• Outstanding personal achievement (28)
• End of school (26)
• Change in living conditions (25)
• Change in personal habits (e.g. more/less exercise) (24)
• Change in working hours/conditions (20)
• Moving house (20)
• Change of educational establishment (20)
• Change in recreation (19)
• Change in social activities (18)
• Change in sleeping habits (16)
• Holidays (13)
• Christmas (12)
• Minor violations of law (11)
Stress scores between 100–199 indicate a mild life crisis;between 200–299: moderate life crisis; 300 upwards: major life crisis. That’s without exams. Adapted from Holmes, R.H. and Rahe, R.H. (1967) Journal of Psychosomatic Research, 11.

Other effects of stress
So much for the physical effects of stress. Here’s how it manifests
itself in students’ work:
• Performance below par
• Muddleheadedness
• Exhaustion
• Depression
• Aggression
• Agitation
• Disorganisation
• Procrastination
• Forgetfulness
• Being persistently late
• Making up excuses
• Missing lectures, tutorials and deadlines
• Socialising too much

Misinterpretations of stress
As stress signals go, many of these are fairly discreet. Many can be mistaken for laziness. Consequently, students who fail to meet targets are commonly told, somewhat unimaginatively, to ‘get their act together’ or ‘pull their finger out’. They may even be the first to chastise themselves. Unfortunately, self-condemnation
tends to make us less likely to tackle a problem constructively. To do so, most students need to talk to someone and get help. Yet, very few students admit they have a problem. Most suffer in silence. There’s a very good reason for this. As children, many students were routinely praised for being right, and blamed for .Why students being wrong. Success was rewarded with a pat on the back; failure, with a sharp rebuff. When this happens to children, they very quickly put two
and two together and equate making mistakes with being bad. In order to gain love and acceptance from their family, teachers and peers, they learn to hide their weaknesses. They may even lie and cheat in order not to get found out. Although it’s an enormous effort for them, they usually manage to hand in their work and keep up with their course, albeit in a chaotic fashion. Then, there are students who cover up their problems so well that everyone thinks they’re terrific. The admiration they receive from others prevents them from fulfilling their true potential: the more they are praised, the more trapped they become. Once people learn
to present a polished mask to the world, it becomes very difficult for them to seek help. The mask may come to feel like an integral component of their identity; they may lose any awareness that they are stressed. Apart from spending too much time alone in libraries or at the computer, tell-tale signs are usually psychosomatic:
• Asthma
• Skin complaints
• Recurring bouts of ill health
• Stomach problems
• Bowel problems
• Muscular pains such as back pain
• Eating disorders
• Oversleeping (an escape from the difficulty of being awake)
• Insomnia
• Panic attacks
• Frequent accidents
• Hyperactivity or exhaustion
• Vomiting.

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Conclusion: Therefore, its very necessary to catch or recognize the stress at proper time and act immediately before it grows and turns to mental or physical or psychosomatic illness.

Body Language (Part III-Gestures)

2010-03-04T18:01:00.002Z

Body Language (Gestures):

Facial expressions and hand gestures-

Our face is the most visually expressive part of our body. There are six universal facial expressions:-Happiness, sadness, surprise, fear, anger and distrust. Each of the expressions is accompanied with a combination of recognisable gestures. After the face, the hands are the most expressive part of our body. We use them to reinforce our speech or on occasions even as its replacement.

Palm Gestures-

(i) Open palm--> The open palm gesture indicates truth, sincerity, trustworthiness and agreement. For example, the palm is held in the air when testifying in a court of law or placed on a Holy Book while bearing witness.

* There are two basic palm positions-the palm facing upward and the palm facing downward. In the upward-facing position, a person may be asking for something, as in the case of a beggar, and in the downward-facing position, he may be trying to hold down or constrain something *

* When a person wishes to be totally sincere and truthful, he hold out one or both palms (exposed) to the other person and conveys his desire to be frank with him *

* A child may hide his palms behind him when he is not telling or hiding something *

* A husband, trying to explain his wife why he was coming so late at night, may either hold his palms together or have them in his pockets; the hidden palms indicating to the wife that he is withholding the truth *

* A sharp salesman, noting a customer's open palm gesture, will understand that the customer is genuinely not interested in his product *

Palm Power Gestures-

There are three main palm command gestures- palm-up, palm-down, palm closed-finger-pointed position.

* The palm-up position signifies submission, a non-threatening gesture. The palm-down position denotes authority and depending upon the relationship between a worker and his senior, the situation could be explosive or just routine. In the palm-closed-finger-pointed position, the speaker compels his listener into submission *

* One of the most irritating and annoying gestures is to see the speaker pointing a finger at you (esp. index finger), and beating, time or punctuating his words with it. A habitual finger pointer, will learn to create a more relaxed attitude, with a positive effect on people, if he only learns to use the palm-up or palm-down positions more often *

Handshakes-

The age old custom of shaking hands, practised even today, involves the interlocking and shaking of the palms. In English-speaking countries, the handshake gesture is used both during initial greeting and when leaving. During such handshakes, the hands are generally pumped five to seven times. While shaking hands, one of the following three basic attitudes is conveyed---> dominance, submission or equality:

* When your palm faces upward, submission is denoted. For an instance, an arthritic patient, being weak, can be submissive; a surgeon, an artist or a musician, wanting to protect his hand, might be submissive too *

* Dominance is conveyed when your palm faces down in the handshake, in relation to the other person's palm *

* Two dominant people shaking hands would like to see the other submissive, hence there is every likelihood of the hands being held in a vice-like grip *

* In order to intimidate the other dominant person, step forward with your left foot as you reach to shake hands, the bringing your right foot forward, place it in his person space, then bring your left foot beside the other foot and shake the person's hand. This allows you to take command, by invading the other person's personal space *

* Most right-handed people are at a disadvantage when they get a dominant handshake, for they have very little manoeuvrable space or flexibility to move within the confines of the handshake, letting the other person gain mastery *

* Another way to dominate the other person, is to grasp the person's hand on top and then shake it, for then your hand, which will be in a palm facing down position, is in a superior position on top of his. This, of course, should be done judiciously and cautiously *

* Though, a handshake is a sign of welcome, sales people are taught that if they initiate the handshake with a buyer on whom they have called without appointment, the result could be negative as the buyer may not want to receive them *

Rubbing Palms Together-

Rubbing the palms together denotes some positive expectations from the doer. Foe example, the master of ceremonies or a dice thrower or a magician, rubs his palms in anticipation of something positive.

* The speed at which a person rubs his palms together suggests that he expects the other person to benefit. For example if someone goes to a car dealer and describes what he is looking for, the dealer rubs his palms together quickly and says that he has the right car for him. The signal here is that the dealer expects the buyer to benefit *

* If you rub your palms very slowly, then the message the other person gets is that you are crafty or devious and applied to the car dealer-buyer example, the buyer would think that he is not going to benefit and that the dealer would be benefiting himself *

Body Language (Part II)

2010-02-26T19:04:00.000Z

--Role of voice in body language--
Apart from expressions which are visual, intonation or voice also plays an important role in body language. The words that we use to convey a message can be given additional emphasis by the tone of our voice. The tone will convey to the receiver what he should know about the way-the message needs to be inferred. For instance, a question such as ' Before now why have you not told me this?' can be conveyed in a variety of ways by using different kinds of intonations. Through our tones, we can enhance the message with expressions such as anger, disappointment, dislike, enjoyment or happiness added to the actual words. When we talk on the phone, we can not make use of body signals or gestures as the receiver cannot see our body language and therefore we often compensate for that by placing more stress on the way we use the intonations in our voice.

Emotional Voice
We can lace our voice with different emotions. When we feel emotional and still want to continue talking, there is a quiver in our voice. The tremble can be a sign of an assortment of emotions and can be considered in different ways by men and women, as well as by each individual. It is important to keep in mind that the situation, as well as gender and culture, can play a role in determining those differences. The whole range of emotions and ways to express them is not only closely related to the intonations in our voice and body language but also to our breathing.

Golden Silence
In the art of communication, silences have a vital role to play. Even when we are silent, we are still communicating! When we convey to the other person depends on the kind of silence it is. Mostly the subject of the conversation plays a major role in this. The time gap in between words provides space for feeling and thinking. The more emotionally loaded a subject is, the more silence is needed. To be silent in company when there is a lot of talking is an art in itself. Many people have this idea that when there is silence it means that there is just nothing more to say. But that is not true. It often means that people are trying to figure our something intuitively about themselves or about the other person(s). Quite often, people notice something about the body language of other(s) and pay attention to that.

Intimate Silences
There are times when people require silence to work out for themselves how intimate they want to be with others. But for more people, when there is lull (temp. quite period) in conversation in a group, they find it hard to handle. They become nervous or they feel tht they have to say something and get embarrassed if they have nothing to add to the conversation at that moment. It is at such moments that we all say strange, stupid or boring things and later wonder at our mental health for saying such stupid things.
People who do not like to talk about a particular topic for whatever reason will use a silence or berak in the conversation to create a diversion by changing the topic. In the therapeutic world, silence are often used to give someone the opportunity to become more aware of themselves or what they have just said. Silence in a group can be an indicator of the level of comfort and intimacy within the group members or it can also indicate distrust. Silences can also make some people feel threatened.

--Body Posture--
Reading a person's body posture can tell us various things about that particular person; the way people hold themselves gives us important information. For instance, when a person is down in the dumps, the information is conveyed by their sagging shoulders and having very little eye contact. The message this gives the world is that they are not interested in their environment or the people in it. On the other hand, a person who walks straight and strides into the room, carries with him the impression of confidence and a positive attitude.
Our body posture often reflects our feelings pretty well. Through our body posture we can also convey our interest and respect for another person. To turn to the person one is talking to, indicates interest in what the person is saying.

Close or Open
A person's body posture can be closed or open. When a person is not feeling ease with someone, he will often assume a closed position, he will possibly cross his arms or legs or will hold an object such as a bag in front as a barrier. The bag and the crossed arms and legs provide barriers and protection at his vulnerability.
Trust has a lot to do with the way a person positions himself in company. It is quite normal to start the acquaintance of someone with a bit of a closed body position until the person establishes some level of trust and comfort that goes with that till he has established a level of intimacy. Trust is established by our body language interactions as well as what we say.

--Kinesica and Neuro Linguistic Programming--
The study of the language of the body is called kinesica. The more recently developed theories on human functioning have given life to Neuro Linguistic Programming (N.L.P). N.L.P uses body language as its main source of information to tell more about the way we operate as people, by ourselves or when we are together.
For instance, we alter the position of our body continually in conjunction with our environment when we are in company or in a public place. Research has shown that we have a higher success rate of getting our message across to another person when we take on a similar position as hi/her. Subconsciously, we replicate the other person's movements like crossing and uncrossing legs, turning our bodies in different directions. This process is called modeling in N.L.P.

Body Movement
Though we are often not cognisant of the body language signals we send out to other people, yet unconsciously we are able to decode the body language of others. We rely on our intuitive feelings with this process of interpreting and reading between the lines of what the other person is saying to us. Movement is also a part of body language. All movements, in our face, with our head, our legs, our feet and all body parts, our gestures, combine to make our body language harmonious. Gestures, combination of a series of smaller body movements can be learned.
For example, when we want to say ok: our thumb and index finger make a circle and our other fingers stretch upwards, while our facial expression compliments what we are signing with this signal. It is often humorous to see the attempts of young children who learn these signals and do not always get them right in their efforts to duplicate their new learning.
When a gesture has different meanings in different societies, it can be amusing as well as a cause for complications. So one should be ware of where and when one is using the gestures.

Presentation Skills

2010-02-23T18:14:00.000Z

Presentation Skills

Presentation is a communication process of transmitting the message from the presenter to the audience. This message can vary in length and complexity. Different presentation aids can be used e.g. flip chart, PowerPoint presentation with the video beamer, whiteboard with erasable pens, laser pointers, etc. Presentation can be done in different circumstances in a more or less formal way.To present something before a mass is like projecting oneself to them. Each and every action from facial expression to body language have great impact on our presentation.
To become a successful presenter, we need focus and practice to talk effectively before mass. Presentation is no more different than public speaking. No one is a borned public speaker or presenter, it improves and develops with persistance and practice.
In fact, everybody is in the position to be a presenter at some point. At school, at the university, during the business presentation or even you can be a professional presenter. Now we come to common problem for most of the people. This problem is "Stage Fright" combined with lack of technical skills of presenting. And i have mentioned how to get rid of this error in previous posts (Dale Carnegie's special).
Before presenting anything before anyone, the two Ps which are inevitable are "Preparation" and "Practice". Apart from them, Self-confidence,Self-control is also necessary to reduce the nervousness. Every one does have their own principle and ways to prepare for presentation but i am going to point out some basic presentation skills tips--

--You need to have a minimum of expertise in the area of presentation. This means that you cannot just learn your lines that you will say during the every slide, but you also need to be prepared to answer to potential questions from the audience. Simply, you need to have at least the basic knowledge on the subject presented.

--Make concept for your presentation ( intro, main part, conclusion ). Your presentation needs to have meaningful flow. It should have a theme, the message and learning for your audience. Set up learning goals for your audience and check the results at the end. Longer presentation should have detailed agenda developed.

--Use aids ( power point or flip chart ), but remember that you are still one who is presenting, not the slides. Do not exaggerate with the presentation aids. They should assist you, instead you assist to them.

--Use not more 3-4 lines of text on presentation slides, with maybe 1 photo. If you put too many details, nobody will read it. Average audience is not reading the content of the slide, in case that there are too many details on it. Slides should be clear in content, visible for everybody in your audience, with graphic and color that will not distract audience, or make them difficult to read. If you are not skillful with graphic and colors, use predefined templates.

--Exercise your presentation, so that you get a feeling about it. Check all slides before presentation. Check the video beamer, cables, remote control, room lights and other technicalities before beginning of presentation. Check the colors and readability, since video beamer can present colors in different way than your computer screen. Distorted colors can make reading difficult or impossible.

-- Assess the time needed for you presentation and check the timing during your rehearsals. If your presentation is longer, divide it in sections ( e.g. 45 min ) with breaks ( e.g. 10 min ). Time management is critical during the presentation, since audience might start to feel bored if presentation is too long. You can even not finish your presentation, if it takes too long time.

--Try to move around during your presentation. Use your body language. If you just stand still in one place, you will become invisible soon to you audience and their eyes and mind might start to wander around. By moving your self and using your body language, in accordance the dynamic of the subject presented, you are keeping the audience alerted.

--Use examples for your statements. That can be your experience or something you read. If you are using somebody's examples, quote source of information. You can even say a short story or saying, if you find it suitable for supporting your presentation.

--Use humor in your presentation. This can be planned or spontaneous, but within limits that will not change normal flow of presentation.

--Ask questions to the audience. Ask for volunteers, or pick someone to answer. This will help you to keep the audience alert. They will pay more attention to your presentation, since they know that you might ask them later on. Asking questions will make your presentation more interactive, more interesting to the audience and easier for you, since you will animate people to participate.

--Do not say something like "Sorry about my presentation" or "I am nervous". I remember some of my friends that used to say something like that during the presentation. I found that to be wrong, since their presentations were actually good and I wouldn't ever guess that they are nervous or unprepared, if they didn't say something like that. If you state that you apologize because you are not a good presenter, you are ruining your credibility before you even started. Even if you are a bit nervous there is no reason to say that.

Actually, everybody, even the most experienced presenters, have some "stage fright". It is normal. But as soon as the presentation starts, you will be released, since you will involve your energy into the presentation.

Tips-Time ManagemenT

2010-02-23T06:40:00.000Z

Time Management Tips

"Time" is that powerful terminology in dictionary that beats almost all thing. As like in other parts of life, it is equally important in personal development and growth. Those who can manage time properly is almost 50% successful in his work because for managing time, we need dedication, determination, positive attitude, hard-work. These are the key-points which are responsible for making a person successful.If we get success in managing time, indirectly we are managing our life. So, i am going to describe some points or tips for managing time.

-->Sleep Less. -
According to a survey of 18 members of the Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development (OECD), the average American sleeps 8.5 hours per day. The average healthy adult only requires 7-8 hours of sleep per 24-hour cycle. If we simply slept less, we could gain an hour of productive time. Some of our most effective citizens get by on much less sleep. I understand that some of the most productive people in the world, most notably: President Obama, Tiger Woods, and Bill Gates all function quite well on 5 hours sleep a night.
-->Limit your email reading.
This is another way to improve your time management skills. Follow a vacation schedule for email reading ... especially when you have big projects to do. Email reading has become a phenomenal time waster. Scan for crucial emails and let the other just sit there. Only read and respond to the essential emails until you get "to do list" down to a manageable size.
-->Stop Talking on the Phone unnecessarily.
Limit your telephone conversations. If you must talk on the telephone, please reduce the number of minutes you talk. Be like a lawyer and set a time. Talk up to the specified time and no longer.
-->Reduce TV watching time.
Busy people cannot afford to watch too much TV. I used to joke that I could spend an hour watching "Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous" or I could spend that hour building my business so that later on I could live "Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous". Would you rather watch it or live it?
-->Limit Your Shopping Trips.
Here's another time management tip. Schedule your errands so that you can go to several stores in one outing. This saves time, gas, and money.
-->Reduce time spent on social media sites.
Chatting on social media sites is fun and addictive. Browse your favorite sites for a few minutes everyday. Respond to the few items that you must deal with. Then go on with your work.
-->Delegate.
Recent studies show that multitasking, rather than being an asset, is actually quite detrimental to productivity, as opposed to focusing on one job at a time. You cannot do everything by yourself. You are not superhuman after all. Know your limits and don't be afraid to say "no" to more work or get others to share the load.
-->Don't procrastinate.
All this does is pile up your work, making it even more daunting. And the more daunting it is, the less you'll be inclined to work on it, and the more you'll put it off. It's a vicious cycle, indeed. So another time management tip is to break the task apart into several tiny, more manageable pieces. Work on these pieces one at a time and before you know it, you have conquered the project in its entirety.
-->Personalize.
Work on your workspace so that it is conducive to productivity. Get rid of distractions, but do what works best for you. Some people prefer a desk that is the epitome of organization. But if your clutter is your very life source, the fuel from which you derive all of your creative energy, then keep the mess-as long as it's organized mess, meaning you know exactly where everything is so that you don't waste precious time scrounging around for this paper or anything else you might need.
-->Reward yourself for a job well done.
Hard-earned rewards can be added motivation, goals toward which you can strive. They make work that much more satisfying and fulfilling.
**As like in before posts, i urge everyone that without proper application, these tips won't work and some tips might be not applicable to all. Therefore, you better know which one is applicable and can useful for you, rest is within you***

8 Ways to Re-think Your Working Style and Boosting Tips

2010-02-22T13:26:00.000Z

8 ways to rethink your work style!

How do you get the most out of the time you spend working? Research on mind and body provides some answers

WORK WORK WORK. We all are familiar with this terminology "WORK". And we even know what it means to us for living a properous and happy life. Whether be to earn for monetary standard or to earn for self satisfaction, we need to work and its so much essential that without working we can not achieve our objectives for what we are borned for.
As i have mentioned in my previous articles, for personal development also, the tips, tricks and techniques are just the base. To achieve it, all you need to do is "WORK".
We all have a day of 24 hours. Within this, we have to accomplish various activities from home work to professional. This duration is sufficient for some, but for some, this day hours is also insufficient. Why do some people get so mcuh done while the rest struggle just to get by? The research suggests that productivity comes more from the ways we think and live than from the number of hours we invest in a given task. Paying attention with the mindset with which you approach your work can pay big dividents in how much you accomplish each day.

The Ways:

1) Go with the Flow
People who find a balance between their skills and the challenges they face are more likely to be productively involved in whatever they are doing, says Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. He calls that balance flow and has found that high achievers spend more time than low achievers in periods of flow.
    To reach that state, he explains, high achievers invent ways to challenge themselves, whether they are studying, working or just moving to the lawn.' Workers who enjoy what they are doing,' he says,"spend more time working than adults who do not seem to enjoy their jobs. These people are going to be more productive." There is one famous saying also "If you enjoy your work, you do not have to work a single day in your life".
    Psychologist Dean keith Simonton agrees that the most prolific people in many fields find their work pleasurable, at the very least. The truly extraordinary go well beyond that. Simonton has studied such incredibly productive figures as Mozart (600 compositions), Thomas Edison (1093 patents) and Napoleon bonaparte (68 battle). "Exceptional achievers in almost any domain," he says," consider their endeavour their main hobby."

2) Great expectations Breed Success
Psychologist Martin E.P. Seligman discovered the profound power of optimism in a profession that could discourage even the most positive souls; life insurance sales. When he compared the personalities of trainees with their first two years' performance, he found that those who "see the glass half full" sold 37% more insurance that their pessimistic cohorts. Why? When optimists encountered tough luck, they did not feel that one or two bad days meant they would not do well in future.
   The good news, Seligan says, is that pessimists can learn to be optimists. Based on his findings, a company developed MOST, or Metropolitan Optimism Sales Training. The programme, which focuses people on how they think at work rather than what they do, was first used in 1988 by the Metropolitan Life Insurance Company. Insurance sales people have particularly strong need for positive ways of dealing with rejection. As Richard Calogero, a director of planning and research for human resources in personal insurance at Metropolital Life, explains,"Our people do a lot of coid-calling. After 20 calls, they may have only one interested client. Optimism training gives them a sort of immunity to all the turndowns". The training gives people three cognitive tools to use when things go badly at work, they are;
(i) Avoid blamming yourself for your failures
(ii) Realize that mistakes usually have only a temporary effect and
(iii) Do not let mishaps or down days infringe on other areas of your life.
It is also important to take credit for your successes and think of them as lasting achievements that will pay off.

3) Be Mindful, Not Mindless
Rigid automatic thinking leads to what psychologist Ellen Langer calls mindlessness. "Mindlessness," she says in her book by that name,"is seeing the novel in the familiar," a kind of flexible and creative style that turns "stumbling blocks to productivity into building blocks." Langer offers wheelchair manufacturing as an example."People were making only one kind of wheelchair for year,"she says."To break out of the mindset associated with handicaps and hospitals",people who make wheelchairs "could see themselves in the transportation or the recreation business."
Mindfulness also alleviates burnout by motivating people to find innovative solitions to the same old problems. Mindless people burn out when they see their job as the same old thing. "In their single minded view," Langer explains, they think,"We have always done it this way," and they give up. With mindfulness, you know there are multiple solutions."
   In teaching people how to be mindful, Langer stresses what she calls the power of uncertainty, the need to keep your mind open to the many ways information can be understood."A belief in uncertainty leads to taking more risks,"she says, which leads to innovation.

4) Exercise for Energy
Exercise scientist Daniel lanfers points to research showing that people are in a better mood and think faster during or after exercise than at other times-- changes which increase productivity."If you perceive you have got more energy,you will approach tasks you might not otherwise think to attempt,"he says.
Exercise raises the levels of endorphins, hormone responsible for causing the sensation of euphoria, and cortisone, a hormone that creates a feeling of arousal. These changes, says endrocrinologist George Chrousos, could lead to a sense of well-being that bolsters productivity. Amount of exercise needed to generate such boost may vary upon individuals, but it probably takes a relatively vigorous activity like running or swimming 3 times a week. Apart from this aerobic exercise, stress relieving mental training like autogenics, transcendental meditation is also recommended.

5) Manage your Time
The key to organizing time or time management, is realizing whether you are mainly an organized left-hemisphere thinker or a creative right-brainer. If you like to make lists, handle details and put things back where you found them,you have a left brain orientation. If you relish talking ideas over with coworkers and keeping you are working on in sight, you are a right-hemisphere manager,says management consultant Ann McGee-Cooper.
Which ever you are, says Cooper, you should accept and work with that natural style of self-management. Most of us have learned only left-brain kinds of rules for managing time, such as,"Handle each sheet of paper only once" and "Finish one thing before you start another." That is useful advice for left-brainers, who carefully plan out each day, set their priorities and schedule everything precisely.
"But this overlooks a part of mental process, some creative people use",says Cooper. They tend to file in piles, on their desktop, rather than putting each document in a drawer as soon as they receive it. This looks like clutter to some people."But to a dominant right person, this 'mess' works as visual organization and order," Cooper says. Many of our bad habits are really"gifts that we are wearing wrong-side out."
The fact is, in some professions, and in most highly creative fields, ignoring the clock may be the best way to use time.
McGee-Cooper emphasizes the importance of what she calls brain-balance for everyone--teaching the other half's tricks to the "better half". For left-brain organizers, this could mean scheduling two or three "joy breaks" each day."Take a few minutes out for relaxation, buy some fresh flowers or call a friend," Cooper suggests.
Right brainers might choose a left-brain coach for pointers on scheduling or the use of a calendar. They also need to lighten up tasks they tend to avoid, such as paperwork, perhaps stationery or several different pens."Engineer a way to bring fun into your system,"Copper suggests.

6) Be Goal-Guided not Goal-Governed

When psychologist Richard Guzzo and his colleagues analyzed almost 100 studies of worker productivity. they found that goal-setting outdid most other techniques-- including pay raise and flex-time arrangements-- in raising the quantity and quality of work. "If you want to accomplish anything, you have to set explicit and challenging goals," says psychologist Edwin Locke, who has studied goal-setting for about 25 years. Aiming for easy or vague goals does little for productivity.

"We have found that you've got to be committed to your goals, and you have got to be convinced that the goals are important and worthwhile,"Locke says. He also suggests breaking up future objectives into weekly and daily goals, since"short term goals, make long-term goals seem more psychologically real".

Langer warns, however, that blind pursuit of any one goal may hinder the overall level or quantity of your achievement."You want to goal-guided not goal-governed,"she says, since the initial course you se to reach a goal may not turn out to be the most fruitful.

7) Take time to Play

Stephan Colarelli, a psychologist, points out that "rest and reflection" are crucial to productivity. We are obsessed with busyness, but some of the most productive public figures rook time to rest,"Wiston Churchill, for example, took one long nap almost every day, even during World War II.

Health educator Allan Luks, executive director of the Institute for the Advancement of health, offers a more recent testimonial to the benefits of relaxation:"When stockbroker Robert Lo Pinto joined the Washington,D.C., office of E.F.Hutton in 1982, he admitted having an unusual habit for a pressured stockbroker. Every morning and evening, he practiced transcendental meditation. Lo Pinto believes his superiors might have thought him strange for doing these claming 20 minute relaxation exercises, except that he became and remaind E.F. Hutton's top salesman for all brokers who started in his training group."

8) Look at your Environment

Internal factors are not the only elements that influence how much a person can get done. It is also important to consider environment. Colarelli and his friends studied 280 first-year accountants, looking at characteristics of both employess and their workplace. After a year on the job, the researchers found that work environment- the degree of decision making freedom managers gave workers, for example--had a performance than did IQs or economic backgrounds.

Simply hiring bright people does not guarantee good performance,Colarelli explains. It helps to be surrounded by competent managers and motivated coworkers, of course, but the crucial element in performance is feedback.

The right environment can even make a group of talented, poorly managed professionals who are performing below capacity shine. Even if your work environment is less than inspiring, however, there is plenty you can do personally to be more productive. A healthy lifestyle,an optimistic, flexible outlook and time management geared to your style of thinking will all help you accomplish more. Focus on the intellectual challenge of each task and draw on the enthusiasm and drive generated by the best of your coworkers. Productivity, in short, is large a personal matter--with a little help from your friends.

Handwriting Analysis (Kid's Stuff)

2010-02-20T14:09:00.000Z

Children phase is the phase which a kid learns from every actions and reactions he/she is experiencing which can be positive as well as negative too. Children are taught to write at an age when their motor control is sufficient for them to hold a pen properly and coordinate its movements. Why then should learning to write be so difficult and unpleasant? The answer: children, too, are people, with personalities that the commonly taught methods of penmanship deny. They are forced to emulate traits that are not necessarily their own, so there is a lot of room for improvement in teaching this subject. For example, many standard script alphabets unwittingly incorporate negative personality traits such as jealousy and argumentativeness. Eventually, kids will discard such behavior if it is not part of their true nature, but how much easier for everyone if these habits didn't have to be reckoned with unnecessarily.

By contrast, a script system developed by Dr. Richard Stoller, a graphologist and psychologist, consciously tries to promote positive traits in kids in teaching them how to write.In devising the chart, Dr. Stoller removed negative traits strokes, such as jealousy loops, so that only positive children who have learned penmanship with this method.

Unlike the many teachers in Europe who are required to study handwriting analysis, teachers in America are generally dogmatic about teaching penmanship. For one thing, boys, even in today's liberated climate, are given greater leeway than girls, who are expected to have better handwriting.

Graphologically, there's no inherent difference between handwriting of males and females. Yet messiness in boys' script is tolerated more than in girls' because of cultural conditioning. Boys are not only permitted to express their energy more than girls in the classroom, but they simply are not geared toward good penmanship.

As part of our culture, historically women have been encouraged to write beautifully. Beautiful penmanship was part of a woman's accomplishments. Before World War when communicating was done chiefly by letter, they developed studied scripts as an art form. Modern grade school teachers often provide good examples of studied writing. They seem to have similar script not only because they teach penmanship but because they practiced writing impeccably on the blackboard.

Another problem in teaching penmanship is that scrawled writing is not tolerated. But as i have mentioned earlier, scrawled writing means thoughts come faster than the writer's ability to put them down. This is true in case of adults and some children. But, for the most part, children scrawl because they are not mature or habitual of writing. In any case, they should not be pressed and if should not worry parent who are told their little Adam or Kenneth or Amanda or Stacy is a bright student but does not do well in penmanship.

(*to be contd*)

Do your Looks Matter?

2010-02-18T12:38:00.000Z

Looks, Looks and looks, or appearance is the foremost tool by which another human being judge us or vice-versa of how the person is? In the category of life's ineradicable unfairness, few things rank higher than the privileges normally accorded to those who are beautiful (or, in the case of men, handsome). We are all told especially in childhood, that looks don't matter," you can not judge a book by its cover" but by the age of 5 or 6, most of us have already learned this is merely Parent-speak, and demonstrably false. Children don't believe this, their parents don't believe this; what's more, it doesn't take long before they know their parents don't believe it. Whether it pays to be good looking is not the question. The big issue today is whether good looks or good appearance in general really do pay off in the workplace as much as talent, experience, hard work and smarts-- especially for women. The answer to that is more ambiguous.

Where men are concerned, appearance is seldom a major issue. The last president of the United States who could lay any real claim to good looks was John.F.Kennedy, and while a certain amount of presence is desirable in a candidate, nobody seriously judges a president on looks. If Americans did, they would certainly not have elected Richard Nixon, nor Jimmy Carter, surely one of the least prepossessing political figures since Calvin Coolidge, Senators, Supreme Court Justices and governors come in all shapes and sizes.
When men are concerned, looks are secondary--which is not to say that men are not aware of them in other men. On the contrary, some short, ugly executives will surround themselves with tall, good-looking male subordinates, just for the pleasure of showing them who the actual "Boss" is, and some chief executives prefer to be represented by men whose appearance "does credit to the company," at least in positions that may involve some contact with clients, the general public or the press. But on the whole, the issue is a non-issue, if only because even thinking about whether another male executive is or is not good-looking seems to most men a slightly homosexual thought and dangerous to admit.

When it's a question of looks in the workplace, alas, we are still talking about women, as every woman knows--or fears. Women are judged by very different standards from men. When a men talk about a man's "appearance" what they really mean is how he dresses, i.e., his grooming, but when they talk about a woman's "appearance", they mean her.

In the end, in business as in the rest of life, what really matters is making the most of what we have got. Getting ahead in business ahead does not require looking like Miss Universe , but it does require an appearance of neatness, positive energy, optimism, and positive approach to work that is reflected in the way you present yourself.

Why is your Child lying? Solve this negative personality trait

2010-02-18T06:02:00.000Z

WHY CHILDREN LIE?

Most of us have gone through this personality trait known as lying or "lie" simply. We all have lied for some reason somewhere in the phases of our life and still are lying. LIE is one thing, but for the reason we are lying might be ranging from moderate to chronic. LIES can make fun sometimes but can leave a great serious impact in some cases in our life which can't be inevitable by any means.

Apart of lies done by adults, its more serious the case when a child starts to lie. Brain of children is like the smooth mud which can be shaped or modified in whatever we like. If the are being feed with negativity, they will grow accordingly, so to control and manage this negative personality trait is very important. But what lies mean to children, and why they lie, changes as they grow older.

From fairy tales to folklore, young children have generally been pictured as sweet innocents, uncorrupted speaker of pure truth. We all like to think that our own youngsters wouldn't lie, wouldn't even understand what lying is indeed and certainly wouldn't deceive us.

Realistically, of course, most parents face the fact that their children do sometimes lie. What they may not realize is how young this behavior can start and how it changes as children grow. Understanding these age-related changes can help everyone who deals with children handle the problem more successfully.
Until recently, most researchers believed that 3 to 6 yrs old couldn't distinguish between unintentionally making a mistake and deliberately saying something untrue. New evidences suggest that this is wrong. By the age of 4, or even earlier, children can and will lie not simply make excuses or confuse fantasy with reality, but deliberately attempt to mislead usually to avoid punishment. For example;
Richard is an energetic 3 and half years old with an artistic spirit. One day he decided to express his creativity on his bedroom wall with his new crayons. To him it was a great work of art. To his mom, however, it was not a pretty picture,"Richard, did you draw on your wall?" his mom asked,obviously with anger. And due to this angry action by his mom, he simply deny ( human emotions, inclination to make conditions normal--can be seen in children too).
While young children are clearly willing and able to lie, they have their own understanding of what the word means. Until about the age of 8, children consider any false statement a lie regardless of whether the person who said it knew it was false. Intention isn't the issue--only whether the information is false or true.

FANATICS OF TRUTH:
Although child under the age of 6 have trouble distinguishing between unintentional and deliberate false statements, research shows that by the age of 4, children generally know that intending to mislead someone is bad. These children condemn lying more than do older children or adults. They are, as one researcher described them,"fanatics of truth". In one study, 92% of 5-years old said it is always wrong to lie. By age 11 that figure had shrunk to only 28%. Paralleling that change, 75% of the 5-years old said they never lied, while none of the 11 years old made such claim to virtue.
The same researchers asked children about different types of lies. All age groups, from 5 through 11, said that lies to avoid punishment (not admitting you spilled ink on the bedspread) are worse than white lies (telling another child you like his friend even though you don't). Altruistic lies (not telling a bully wants to beat up a younger child where the child is even if you know) were not condemned by any age group, bu the 5-years old gave even this lie a much lower rating than did the older children. The situation that triggered the lie becomes increasingly important. By ages 10-12 and sometimes earlier, children no longer consider lying always wrong. Whether a lie is wrong depends on the situation.

PUNISHMENT AN INHIBITION:
The children 5-9 years old mentioned punishment most often. At this young age punishment is the deterrent. Less than a third of the 11-years old mentioned it, while nearly half said lying destroys trust, a consequence mentioned by few of the younger kids. Psychologist Marie Vasek got similar results in interviews with boys and girls from 6-12. The youngest children said that the main reason anyone lies is to avoid punishment. And while they thought of lying was wrong, tmhey understood why people did it.

DO OLDER CHILDREN LIE MORE?
A number of studies have asked this question, with varying results. Some researches find no change, while others report a decrease in lying with age. The studies do agree on one point, however: Less than 5% of the children at all ages lie frequently. But even this consensus has problems. One is that since the date comes from the reports of parents and teachers., it may be flawed. Perhaps young people just get better at lying as they move from childhood to adolescence, lying as much or more but less detectably.
A second problem: Even assuming the percentage of consistent liars stays the same, we're left with a question: Are these the same children at different ages---chronic liars, so to speak---or different children? We don't know. The only way to find out would be to follow the same children year after year., and that hasn't been done. All we have cross sectional studies of different children in each age group. I suspect the truth lies somewhere in the middle. For some kids, chronic lying is a phase and eventually stops. Other may continue with what becomes a fixed pattern for dealing with the world.

SUCCESSFUL LIES:
We don't know whether children lie more as they get older, but its clear they get better at it. Young children believe adults are all-powerful. By early adolescence or earlier--perhaps by age 10 or 11--most children mhave become fairly able liers. No longer are they always betrayed by the sound of their voice, the look on their face, the blatant inconsistencies in what they say or thrie outlandish alibis. As children gain the power to mislead, parent lose the certainty they had earlier. Although they may still catch a lie---older children, liked adults, do sometimes make some mistakes when they lie, and many lies are betrayed by an accidental discovery--parents learn that they no longer know what their kids are thinking, feeling or planning, unless their children want them to know.

DEALING WITH LIES:
Almost everything relating to lying changes gradually as children growm older. Their understanding of the concent of lying, their attitudes about when lying is wrong, their ability to lie without being caught, their moral and social judgement---all of the these changes as they grow up. Two age period seem especially crucial. The first is somewhere between ages 3 and 4, when children become capable of telling a deliberate lie. This is a good time for parents to begin to educate their children about lying.
Early lying may be simply a phase, or it could develop into an undesirable lifelong pattern. You really can not tell at the time. So if you find your child lying frequently, don't wait to see if its temporary thing. Sintead, try to find out why he or she is lying. Are you doing something which is some way encourages or forces your child to lie? Is you child lying in response to some other problem at home? Is it the influence of friends? Whatever the cause, explain to your child why lying is harmful or just make aware of its negative consequences. If you don't think you are succeeding in eliminating this behavior, seek counselling.
Adolescence or age of puberty is the second crucial period. Some evidence suggests that both lying and peer infulence peak in early adolesence and then subside. Although there is no hard research evidence to support it, I think one reason adolescents are more successful liers is that they feel less guilt about lying to their parents or teachers. Rejecting parental values---noticing the clay feet that authority stands upon--is a common form of rebellion. For some teenagers, lying may be one way of establishing their own identity, of achieving independence--a necessary task of adolescence.
To make understand how difficult life together will be if there is no trust or belief is another way to convince the adolescents. This phase is when they become emotional too so try this tool to get them rid off this negative personality. And also try to elaborate or describe the power of "BELIEF AND TRUST".

KICK STRESS OUT FOR PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT (AUTOGENICS TECHNIQUES)

2010-02-13T13:32:00.000Z

KICK STRESS OUT FOR PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT (AUTOGENICS TECHNIQUES)

Well stress, strain, tension, anxiety are the human emotions which we can't neglect, ignore or reject. They arise according to time and condition. Every one of use have perceived this. A classic study at Gerogetown University found that piled up stress can affect even eight-year-old, lowering IQ by as much as ten points These negative emotions are the obstacle for giving our 100 percent in whatever we do, they diminishes our performance hence decreasing the self-confidence and esteem. But, instead of taking negative, lets know the ways to kick stress busters out. But before you read this article, Please make your mind that without applying these techniques, they are not going to work for you automatically as like magical wand. I am just giving the boat, to cross the river, you are the only one to go for it. Another thing, dedication and determination are keypoint while practicing. If you master these techniques, you have made the best investments you can ever make, one that doesn't cost a cent, i.e. learn to relax and shift body states at your will. You'll add new dimensions to your life and probably some years so good luck

Introduction: Autogenics or Self birthing is the way to relax yourself totally, totally in a sense that you can relax and control both your mind and body at the same time. It was discovered and developed by German M.D. Dr. Johannes Schultz. Although he was a medical person, he sought something more primary than symptoms based pills and surgeries to cure his patients' woes or wounds, and devised a formulas to teach them to relax and control themselves at will. After patients became adept in shifting healthy body states at will, he gave them more formulas to help them make the most of their states of mind. So, the self-birthing began. According to me and my experience, Autogenics is something like positive affirmation or auto-suggestion but with advanced methods and techniques. Autogenics not only gives us relaxation but it also accelerates learning as we all know the main block for memory, learning, concentration is STRESS which autogenics completely removes. Its like psychological gymnastics for psychological fitness. Just 10-15 minutes practicing per day can produce the desired effect sooner or later according to how much determined and dedicated you are.

Procedure: (Source: Superlearning 2000)
Choose a quite place to practice where no one will disturb you. You can assume any position in which you can relax. But, Lying down can be the best.

Warm Up-
Imagine you are putting a "relaxation mask" over you face. This soothing mask smooths your frowns, tension, and wrinkles. Feel it from heart. All the muscles of your face relax and let go, relax and let go. Your eyelids close and rest gently. You focus your eyes on the tip of your nose. Your jaw hangs, loose with your mouth slightly open your teeth but don't touch. Put your tongue on the inner gum line of your upper teeth as if you were silently pronouncing a d or t letter.
Begin very gently with belly breathing, that is, breathing in deeply without straining in any way. As, the air flows inside, feel you abdomen fill with air and puff up. As you breath out, feel it sink in and empty out. Breath slowly and smoothly. Exhale twice as long as you inhale. With each breathing, increase the count. Inhale,2,3; exhale,2,3,4,5,6. Inhale,2,3,4; exhale,2,3,4,5,6,7,8. Start inhaling on a 1 or 2 count, then increase to 6 or 7. Do not strain. Now cycle backward down to where you started. Breath in 6, out 12. Breath in 5, out 10 and continue right upto 1.
Do this mental warm up for 2-3 minutes

1) Heaviness:
You begin by developing a pleasant feeling of heaviness in your body. Begin with your right arm. Say to yourself
- My right arm is getting limp and heavy (6-8 times).
- My right arm is getting heavier and heavier (6-8 times)
- My right arm is completely heavy (6-8 times)
- I feel supremely calm (1 time)
Open your arm and get rid of that heaviness in your arm. Bend your arm back and forth several times. Take a few deep breaths. Relax again. Scan your relaxation mask. Do the cycle again. Do this heaviness exercise, for about 7-10 minutes, two or three times a day
*Troubleshooting- If you have trouble imagining your arm is heavy, hold a heavy object with your arm and say aloud, "My right arm is getting heavier and heavier".
Do this exercise with your right arm for three days. Then continue with the same formula with your left arm for three days, both arms, right leg, left leg, both legs and arms and legs combined-- for three days each. It will be something like
-My left arm is getting limp and heavy, etc. (3 days)
-Both my arms are getting limp and heavy, etc. (3 days).
-My right leg is getting limp and heavy, etc. (3 days).
-My left leg is getting limp and heavy etc. (3 days).
-Both my legs are getting limp and heavy etc. (3 days).
-My arms and legs are getting limp and heavy etc. (3 days).

** This Heaviness exercise take three weeks. If you experience a genuine sensation of heaviness in arms and legs, you're ready for Step Two. If not then keep practicing until you get that sensation. Its better to have a firm foundation or base.

2) Warmth:
Begin with your warm-up for about two minutes. Do one cycle of Heaviness exercise for arms and legs for one minute. One you feel a sense of heaviness, begin to learn how to arouse a feeling of warmth on command: The process is same as heaviness
-My right arm is getting limp and warm (6-8 times)
-My right arm is getting warmer and warmer (6-8 times)
-My right arm is completely warm (6-8 times)
-I feel supremely calm (1 time)
*As you repeat the formula for warmth, try to imagine that you arm is very, very warm. You can put a pail of warm water in your arm or imagine a hot arm in hot sun. Follow the same pattern as like heaviness exercises. Do the right arm for 3 days, left arm, both arms, left leg, right leg, both legs, both arms and legs---all for three days each. You will master this in 3 weeks duration. After that, do this final formula summing up the first two exercises;
- My arms and legs are getting limp and heavy and warm. (6-8 times)
- My arms and legs are getting heavier and warmer. (6-8 times)
- My arms and legs are completely heavy and warm. (6-8 times)
- I feel supremely calm (1 time).

* Between cycles of warmth formula open your eyes, move your arms and legs, and throw off the feeling of heaviness and warmth. Then invoke it again. As you mentally say the formula, visualize your arms and legs getting heavier and warmer.

3) Calm Heart:
Begin with the warm up. Repeat shortly the heaviness and warmth formula. Say each phrase 3 or 4 times. In the beginning, do this exercise lying on your back. Mentally sense your heartbeat. Sense it in your chest, throat, or wherever. If you are prone to headaches, don't feel it in your head. You may prefer to rest your right hand on the pulse point of your left wrist or even on your chest. Usually, in a relaxed state, you can feel the beat. Then repeat silently to yourself:
-My chest feels warm and pleasant (6-8 times).
-My heartbeat is calm and steady (6-8 times).
-I feel supremely calm (1 time).

* Do this exercise 2 or 3 times a day for seven to ten minutes for 2 weeks

4) Breathing:
Do the warm up. Repeat the following;
-My arms and legs are getting limp and heavy and warm (1-2 times)
-My arms and legs are getting heavier and warmer (1-2 times)
-My arms and legs are completely heavy and warm (1-2 times)
-My heartbeat is calm and steady (1-2 times)
-I feel supremely calm (1 time)
-My breathing is supremely calm (6-8 times)
-I feel supremely calm (1 time).
* Do this exercise to gain control over your breathing seven to ten minutes, two or three times a day for two weeks. You will know you've mastered it if you can climb stairs or jog and still breathe calmly and rhythmically at your own command. Instead of "supremely calm" and alternative final sentence for this exercise is:
- It breathes me (1 time)

5) Stomach:
This exercise is to help you arouse a pleasant feeling of warmth in your solar plexus--the area above the waist below the ribs.
Do the warm up. Repeat in short form the heavy/warm formula and heart and breathing formula Then add;
-My stomach is getting soft and warm (6-8 times).
-I feel supremely calm (1 time)
*To help generate the sensation of warmth in solar plexus, you can rest your right palm on your solar plexus while doing this exercise. Gradually you will feel your solar plexus radiating warmth. Some people prefer the formula " My solar plexus radiates warmth ".
*Do this formula for seven to ten minutes, two or three times a day for two weeks. The exercise is completed when you can rouse definite warmth on command.

6) Cool Forehead:
This exercise is for experiencing a feeling of coolness on your forehead. Do the warm-up. Repeat in short form the formula for heaviness, warmth, heart, breathing and stomach. Then say;
-My forehead is pleasantly cool. (6-8 times)
-I feel supremely calm. (1 time)
* Imagine a fresh breeze blowing on your forehead and face. If you don't feel coolness right away,stand in front of air conditioner or a fan and say aloud to yourself,"My forehead is cool".
*Do this exercise two or three times a day for seven to ten minutes for two weeks. When you definitely experience a sensation of coolness in your forehead, you've completed this Step

7) Recap:
You are now ready for final roundup formula, which is in effect graduation from Level-One Autogenics. Do the warm-up. Repeat in short form the formulas for heaviness, warmth, heart, breathing, stomach, and forehead. Then say;
-My arms and legs are heavy and warm.
-My heartbeat and breathing are calm and steady.
-My stomach is soft and warm, my forehead is cool
-I feel supremely calm.

*Repeat the final formula several times. If you've mastered the full series, you'll be able to say this once or twice and immediately achieve the pleasant, calm, stress-free autogenic state. you are in control. The ability to reach this state strengthens with regular practice. Maintenance practice is five minutes, twice a day. Whenever you need to summon this special state---whether its facing some competition, test, audition, or challenge---you simple say to yourself, "Arms and legs heavy, warm; heart and breathing calm, steady; stomach warm, forehead cool, calm. " You'll be immune to any stress, whether it's public speaking, negotiating a business contract, or taking an exam or interview....

**Apart from this proven techniques, this is just first level autogenics, second level autogenics will be published soon which can drive more potential than this**
Autogenics is a sure method to kick your stress out and relax you no matter of time, condition, mood and environment.
Wish you all best of luck and do comment me after being succeeded!

MAGNESIUM FOR MEMORY IMPROVEMENT!

2010-02-13T13:07:00.000Z

MAGNESIUM FOR MEMORY IMPROVEMENT

Due to lack of memory exercises, our memory power keeps degrading not even in old age but also in young generation. The main theme for memory development is "USE IT OR LOSE IT", if we keep using our memory, it gets strengthened day per day. This is one of the reason why old peoples are complaining about memory loss.But, with a latest research published in "neuron" magazine, if adequate amount of magnesium is taken, memory power as well as congnitive abilities also increases.

This research was done in Peching Sinhwya University, Center for learning and memory by the team of Professor, Guosong Leu. They had taken mice as the medium for this research. After the investigation, they came to conclude that, increasing magnesium in diet can leads to good memory power, as they have increased this element in mice. According to research, its very necessary to have magnesium intake in food but its hard to increase the concentration of magnesium in brain with traditional methods. Therefore, the team had developed a magnesium compound known as "magnesium and threonites".

When taken in proper amount with food, this compound can increase the level of magnesium in brain. Prof. Leu says, while increasing the level of magnesium in brain, memory of old mice had also increased significantly. To control the amount of magnesium, mice were given normal foods as usual, only the level of magnesium was increased.
Apart of this analysis, human does have various tools to increase memory and concentration. People remember things according to their personality types and traits. We should always be inclined to live with stress, strain, anxiety and frustration. We can not ignore them but can manage them.